Maama needs help 😭

Hey girls, I really need some advice and would love to hear your opinions.

I have a very active 3-year-old toddler and a 7-month-old baby. My 7-month-old refuses purées and spoon-feeding completely. Every time I try to offer purées, mashed foods, or feed him with a spoon, he gets really frustrated, starts fussing and crying, and refuses to eat.

I’ve tried giving him his own spoon while I feed him with another one, and I’ve also tried distracting him with toys, but nothing seems to help. He just gets upset, and by the end of it, we’re both frustrated and there’s food everywhere.

When I offer finger foods or solids, he’s interested in touching them, squishing them, and making a mess with them, but he hardly puts any food into his mouth. Even when he does, he usually spits it back out. At the end of the day, it feels like he hasn’t actually eaten anything and is still relying entirely on milk.

I also don’t have a lot of extra time to prepare elaborate meals because I’m looking after both kids, so I’m trying to keep things as simple as possible.

Has anyone been through something similar? Is this normal for a 7-month-old? Do you have any tips or suggestions that might help him become more interested in actually eating rather than just playing with the food?

I feel quite sad and worried because it seems like he’s not really eating any solids at all. I’d really appreciate any advice or experiences you can share. ❤️

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From what I was told, when my baby was doing exactly this, it's completely normal and it doesn't matter that your 7-month-old is basically just playing. What they're doing is exploring textures and eventually they will eat, but it's okay if their diet is mostly milk right now because that's where they'll get most of their nutrients until about 12 months old.
Keep introducing different foods, don't worry about baby not eating because it's all about exploring and figuring it out. A lot of people suggest Solid Starts.
I ended up doing baby-led weaning, which worked best for us. After brushing up on infant CPR, it was just less stress to dump a couple of foodstuffs in the tray and watch her figure out all sorts of different foods.

This is so normal! At this stage they are just exploring tastes and textures, at 7 months they should still be reliant on milk as untill they are 12 months it’s their main source of nutrients. He’s interested in touching it and playing with it so that’s a good sign! At the minute he’s still exploring it and trying to figure it out. I skipped purées completely as my boy was same, just wasn’t interested in them and just gave him finger foods. It’s so easy to get frustrated regarding food, as long as he is healthy, happy and thriving he will be absolutely fine❤️ don’t put to much pressure on yourself or him, he will eventually figure it

So normal! Their main source of nutrition until 1 is still milk so the food is just for exploring, all of the spitting out and squishing is all part of the process, lots of sensory exploration and if that’s what keeps him busy I’d leave him to it! Mine was exactly the same at that age I never offered her purees or spoon fed her anything, it did change probably around 10-12 months old where she would eat some of it. I still don’t spoon feed at 18 months old, she has learnt how to use a fork and spoon and uses her hands for the rest.

Just let them do it and keep milk as their main source of nutrition. We never did spoon feeding bar the first few times he had cereal or soup etc. It’s good for them to play and explore. NHS guidance is 3 meals by and from 12 months, there’s no rush x

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