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Yesterday morning I asked my partner to get up with our 1 year old as I do it every morning and I’m exhausted, he’s a 5am waker. He said he wanted another hour as he was nightshift that night so I said alright and got up and on with it, took baby down for milk. About 30 mins later I went upstairs (he didn’t hear me come up) to find him w*nking off?!! Watching p*rn and pleasuring himself while he can hear his 1 year old playing clear as day downstairs. Bedroom door and living room door wide open. I think what he has done is absolutely vile and at the moment I can’t even look at him. I don’t know what to do from here? I also think if he can do that and get off while he can hear his child playing downstairs he needs to go to some sort of therapy for that? Any advice appreciated.

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Does your 1 year old climb stairs? Would you have allowed him to go upstairs alone while you were watching him downstairs?
I don't think he has a problem or needs therapy because he could hear your son playing. If your son were in the room, this reaction would seem appropriate to me. I think you're overreacting a bit

Yes he climbs stairs and takes him about 10 seconds to climb them so could have gone up at any point.

Oh bloody el how disgusting 🤢 especially with myself who has had very little sex drive since having a child 3years ago…I mean I would of flipped for sure, I’m still doing the mornings etc even when my partner works from home and doesn’t start till 9am! He will stay in bed till 10 to 9 🤣 but yeah if I caught him doing that I’m not sure what I’d do, chuck some cold water over him 🤣

Oh shut up Monet 😂😂😂 I’m glad to hear your all for men disrespecting their partners x

I’m sorry you’ve had this, I think therapy is probably not necessary. I for one know I have a low sex drive and men and women are built differently, men usually have a higher sex drive and needs, so he was releasing that. However, I think that handling on his part of the situation is terrible. To say he was staying in bed just to end up pleasuring himself after being asked to help out with the family is awful. I suggest you tell him how you feel honestly, don’t back down as this clearly means something strong in you (understandably!). I’m sorry again, that’s a really difficult one!! X

I'd be annoyed if my partner was doing anything else (play computer games/scrolling on phone/reading) but sleeping, if that what he said he needed! I don't think him pleasuring himself should be the issue, it should be him not willing to help with family things. I don't think therapy is needed as sex drives differ, but a conversation about teamwork and family commitments should definitely be had.

that’s insane.. are you ok w him watching porn? & does he know you heard him?

no absolutely not I find it so disrespectful! Oh yes, he saw me stood there watching him then he got a fright seeing me and quickly put it away and proceeded to lie to my face and tell me he wasn’t doing it! Until I opened his phone to a full on video of porn!! “College slut” to be exact.

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