How do you get the deep clean done

I can barely stay ontop of the general vacuum, mop, put toys away, clean counters, washing etc. how do you find time to do the deep clean like windows, showers, ovens, cupboards etc.

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Me and my partner tackle deep cleaning together. I maintain a livable home for all of us on the daily & make sure there’s always clean clothes available but we do the big cleans together

I have systems.. I don’t vacuum all the time I use a big microfiber broom we don’t have carpet except for upstairs. I have systems for washing, I don’t really clean the windows much but If i do I use a swiffer and put a micro fiber on it or glass and spray and just do it like that, showers? I will use hydrogen peroxide and oxi clean and let it sit and yeah pretty much does the job, ovens: don’t ask me 😂 I will hire someone to do that. Cupboards? I line my cupboards but on the outside they’re white so they must be maintained.. I just get an all purpose and wipe it. My counters are granite but that is a must

I find time but If I don’t have the time I will hire out. Wait for my husband to do it but usually I will do the dishes in the morning and clean the kitchen in the morning while preparing breakfast. I clean the kitchen while I cook idk if that’s weird

We ship the kids off with my mom and get to work. Sometimes I do random things day to day like cleaning the oven today just because I could

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Does your husband ask for consent every time he touches you?

Tell me what is wrong with these messages. For reference this morning my 4 year old crawled into bed with my husband and I who was sleeping naked. He tried to pull down my shirt and do stuff with my boob's and I told him no. Now because im breast feeding sometimes when we're intimate ill just tell him I dont want my boob's touched but this time I meant no all together and said because our daughter was in our bed. He proceeds to stick his hands down my shorts and I again say no and I push his hand away. He storms off this morning. Screenshot in comments

Men have it "easier"

Men and women definitely have their own hardships, but I feel like majority of men will never understand how much harder it is to be a women.

Women are held to such high expectations, there's so much judgement around anything we do from men and even other women.

It's like nothing you do is ever right. Even if you ignore everyone else and their unnecessary opinions, I feel like it still gets to you eventually.

Most women are also living their lives in fear because of men who have traumatized them. Chances are if you see a women, nine times out of ten that women has probably been abused by a man emotionally, physically, sexually, or more than one.

Take childbirth into consideration.

For men it's just 30 seconds and then they go about their business, not for women. We sacrifice our body and mind to carry children, nourish them, and protect them. While some men check themselves out, cheating because "we never have sex anymore" or even just straight up leaving.

Women are almost always depicted as dramatic or hormonal. Expected to do it all and keep a smile on your face the whole time. It's ok for a man to need a break, but when a women does she's a bad mother.

Most men just don't understand what it's like, and they never will.

I really wanted 3 children

I really wanted 3 children but my husband is a hard no. Deep down I know he's right. My age, my body, money, time with the 2 we have, our youngest has been extremely hard work but I just can't shake that sadness of never holding my own newborn again. It doesn't help that I seem to have lost ALL memory of the first few months with both my children. I just can't remember it. Is that normal?

Mourning my old life

I’m a ftm with a 2 week old boy. I love him so much and can’t wait to have more babies but I can’t help but mourn my old life with my partner. I feel like I have baby blues but not related to baby stuff (I don’t mind all the stuff that come with raising my baby), but I feel like I’m grieving the freedom I had in my old life. I miss my partner and the relationship we used to have. I miss being able to go to the gym whenever I wanted or walk the dogs whenever or eat whenever. I miss going to sleep with my partner (we have different bed times now) and I miss doing my evening routine with him (he does the evening shift so I don’t see him then). I feel like I’ve ruined his life bc he doesn’t really have a girlfriend anymore. I’m too busy with the baby to prioritise him. Also bc I’m exclusively breastfeeding, this baby is attached at my hip. I baby wear him all day and I’m the one who feeds him and changes him. I feel like I’m no longer me. I’m me and baby. I feel sorry for my partner that he doesn’t have access to just me anymore. I miss him so much.

Does this even make sense? Does anyone else feel this way? Will it pass? When?

Food pouches

Are you judging parents who use food pouches for their babies ? Ie Ella’s kitchen ect

EBF babies

EBF babies…how often are we eating?? The paediatrician told me he should be spacing feeds out every 3-4h but my LO wants to eat every 2.5 hours during the day without fail. Nighttimes he’ll go a bit longer but during the day he’s such a snacker.