Career advice please?
So I’ve just been offered a new job in the civil service which I’ve been wanting to get into forever. The benefits are amazing- the pension, flextime, stability, family friendly policies, progression etc. I really want to be so excited about the opportunity and I definitely would have been before having my LO. The issue, in a weird way, is how flexible my current employer is. I really hate my job. It’s quite a high stress and demanding job that I genuinely dread logging on to every morning. It is taking a toll on my mental health. However in my current job, I work from home full time, my employer is happy for me to pick my LO at 3:30pm and work with the LO in the background. LO being sick isn’t an issue either. I currently work 4 days a week and my new job will be full time, however I can request compressed hours so I would do a 4 day week and do longer days, meaning LO is in daycare basically until they close. I’ll have to go into the office 3 days a week which will also mean late pick up. There is also one day a week in which I’ll have to work until 8pm so I might literally get to log off to put LO to bed. I really don’t want to give up this opportunity but I’m going to miss my LO so much, I know there will be lots of tears (from me). 😭 what would you do?? If anyone works for the CS, please feel free to give insight into how family friendly they are. I’m really having an internal fight- am I being selfish by even considering it?
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Also to add- I’ll have to be in the office 5 days a week for the first 3 months.
This is a really hard dilemma, you need to figure out what’s going to work for your family as well as you. Yes you dread your job now and logging on but the perks are you have your LO with you at all times watching them grow up. The down side to the new job would be how drastic the change will be in seeing your LO. I’d say think about when you’re planning on getting bubs into nursery. If you had planned to do it soon anyway then I would bite the bullet and take the new job, you will just have to find a new normal for you and your family but I’m sure it won’t take long. Personally, I’d kill for the job you currently have, I’ve been looking for exactly that since I found out I was pregnant. If you feel like it’s going to help with your mental health and make you a better mum then I’d 100% say go for it, just be wise and remember the grass isn’t always greener, maybe yours just needs to be watered! 🤍🤍
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