Competitive cousin. How to deal with it?

I have an older cousin who wanted everything to happen to her first. She wanted to be married first, have a baby first and always be ahead. It’s fair considering that she’s older than me even though everyone has got their own timeline. She always questioned me about when am I planning for kids as she was trying too. When I announced my pregnancy, she announced that she has decided to not have kids anymore. I understand it’s not easy to take the news but why do women take this as a betrayal?

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Why is she so jealous of you! So what if you did stuff before her: that’s your journey not hers. I have a cousin who is exactly the same, I no longer have her in my life. Because I’m not in competition with anyone lol xxx

She needs to grow up honestly. Swallow her pride and insecurities, and be happy for you. I read this so often. I have someone in my life that’s like this too but she perceives herself as having the advantage. I let her have it. I’d never want her life lol, I’m quite content with my own and happy that she’s happy, even when she’s still comparing herself to me. So silly. Just ignore it.

I’m sorry but you don’t need that negativity in your life right now.. she needs to swallow her pride and understand that everyone’s journey is different

She’s just struggling with her fertility issues.
I have friends who are too and when I announced mine the reactions were pretty across the board with them which I get.
It feels unfair and lonely and has nothing to do with you so try not to take it personally.
She may say that she’s done with her own journey but she’s probably just frustrated and may likely come back to it after a break.
Also fertility treatments do all kinds of crazy stuff to your hormones so some of the reaction might be from that.

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