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I need perspective

A friend came to stay with me and had a bit of a rant. I’m fairly upset and wanted some more balanced perspectives.

I’ve had this friend since i was born. We both have young kids.

So essentially she has a rant about how annoyed she is that I got a better maternity package than her because I work for the government and she pays therefore pays my wages. She compared me to people on benefits who don’t work and get more than her.

Key points: I’m from a working class background, she’s middle class

She inherited a lot of money in her early 20s and bought a house outright. I’ve had to build all my own savings.

She has a lovely relaxed job somewhere lovely that doesn’t pay too much and I have a very high pressured job in London where I lived a poorer quality of life because London is so expensive. I get paid about twice what she earns.

She is smarter than me. If she had wanted a high paying good benefits job she could have easily done that, but she chose a nicer life.

I could have left my gov job for a private one with more money but I stayed for the mat leave benefits.

Am I right to be annoyed?