Breast and formula

My baby is 9 weeks old and we are now forumula feeding however, we started off combi feeding. When she was born, I was on blood pressure medication which delayed my milk coming through so I was topping her up with a bottle. She was then then jaudice and had phtotherapy. She could only be off the lights for half an hour at a time, so bottle was more efficient for her. This was a really stressful time and I spoke to the midwives about just formula feeding as my milk hadn't come and I wasn't in the headspace at the time. They encouraged me to express so then my milk came. I started to express and BF however, the expressing at home was awful and wasn't helping my mental health. I was BF but she would want more after and became really fussy at the breast, she would tug and shake it but nothing would come. I would then top her up. She eventually weaned herself off the breast and took a bottle much better. I now find myself getting really sad when I see other people successfully BF their baby. I know everyone's journey is different and formula feeding has allowed my husband ti share the load a bit and for me to get out the house, but I can't help feeling down about it all.

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Heyy. Same situation here. Struggled to feed in hospital and then was told she was jaundice which linked to no feeding. Eternally did latch but it was painful and she was not gaining any weight. Had to add formula bottle in after feeds.
Felt very disheartened that breast feeding wasnt happening how I wanted it to. We are still combi feeding but we are only 3 weeks in. Giving her the breast for comfort when she needs it. Unfortunately sometimes we just cant give them everything we need and I am slowly learning that its okay. Please do not worry

I had a similar situation i had my little girl at 33 week and was threatened preterm labour from 25 week so I was on progesterone which impacted my milk supply. I never fully go my milk supply in and due to been on the nicu for a month and just wanting to get her home I came to terms with dual feeding. This didn't last long maybe only a month or so, now I just but her on the boob for comfort feeds or to calm her down which makes me feel closer with her and stopped me feeling guilty about not been able to solely breastfeed.

I'm an advocate now for 'fed is best' because as long as your little one is thriving breastfeeding or not you are making sure they are cared for which is all thay matters.

My little girl started at 4lb amd is now around 12lb at just over 11 week.

Dont put the the pressure or guilt on yourself, you're doing great

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