Advise regarding feeding

I have a 12 week old who is exclusively breastfed. We do give the occasional expressed bottle as I have a slight oversupply and a fast let down. I have a very hungry baby who feeds frequently, but also spits up frequently despite frequent burping during feeds. She has mild reflux but not medicated and she seems to have done well.

Usually before bedtime she will feed more frequently and then sleep about 6-7 hours before waking for a feed in the night, and then again 2-3 hours later. So I am super lucky to get a good stretch of sleep!

She recently stayed with her grandparents for the evening as husband and I had date night - I expressed 2 bottles for them to give her. As she is breastfed, I don’t really know how much she takes exactly. They offered it to her multiple times from 5pm, but she only accepted and drank it around 8pm, which is about 5 hours after I last breastfed her. She proceeded to take 7oz of the milk in total, and went to sleep.

She then slept through the entire night without waking up for a feed.

Her grandma says that I am overfeeding her, as she hasn’t spit up at all with them, and she didn’t have her usual ‚witching hour’ with them.

Usually she is fussy and unsettled in the evening for a couple hours, and wants to be kept upright and rocked, but her grandparents kept sending us videos of her babbling and being super happy all evening.

Can anyone advise on their experiences with this? I didn’t think you could overfeed a breastfed baby but I also don’t want to be making things worse.

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