Left my husband alone with baby out of frustration.
My husband was away in Europe for two weeks (for leisure) and during that time I stayed out of state with my parents to get some help with the baby. We returned home last Sunday, and since then I've been taking care of the baby all week, which I understand because I'm currently on maternity leave while he's working.
The last two nights have been especially hard. Our 3 month old has been struggling to go back to sleep after her 1–2 a.m. feed, so I've barely slept. I've been in and out of sleep because she's constantly moving around in her bassinet.
Every Sunday, my husband goes to play soccer from around 6 - 9am Before he left this morning, I told him how exhausted I was, and he said he would watch the baby when he comes back so I could rest. He came home around 8:30 am; and I was getting the baby ready because we had a photoshoot scheduled for 11:30 am. He watched her for about an hour before telling me he plans to go to his friend's house later to watch the game.
We ended up arguing because I was under the impression that he would take care of the baby for the day so I could finally get some rest. Fast forward, when we got home from the photoshoot, I prepared the baby's bottle, asked him to feed her, and set up her portable bassinet next to him in the living room before going to the bedroom to rest.
About an hour later, he brought the sleeping baby into the room, placed her in the bassinet beside me, and walked out!
At that point, I got up, grabbed my keys, and left the house. I'm currently sitting in my car trying to get some rest, and I don't plan on going back home until later tonight.
I know he's been working, but I feel hurt, unsupported, and frustrated. I communicated that I was exhausted and needed help, and instead, it felt like my need for rest wasn't taken seriously. He’s being extremely selfish & inconsiderate and I’m fed up!
Am I in the wrong? Should I stay out or go back home 😭. I’m even considering booking a hotel for the night.
Anyone else feel like they’re drowning..
Everywhere I look in my house there is mess, my washing basket is constantly full, thinking of what to make for dinner, doing a food shop, trying to make food now for baby too (and them eating hardly any of it).. it’s all just too much!! How the hell are we supposed to do all this and more when we go back to work. Then also try and get to baby classes, out for a walk, play with baby in their long wake windows now!! I’ve had bedding in my washing machine for 2 days that I’ve not had a chance to hang out! Before people say “get someone to look after your baby so you can get it done”, yes good plan but I’m so exhausted from lack of sleep that any time I get to myself I want to relax or sleep! I’m considering getting a cleaner to come in once a week so hopefully that will help (even though expensive). I’m actually thinking of just chucking away anything that doesn’t have a place so it stops stressing me out 😅🫠😵💫
