Anyone else feel like they’re drowning..

Everywhere I look in my house there is mess, my washing basket is constantly full, thinking of what to make for dinner, doing a food shop, trying to make food now for baby too (and them eating hardly any of it).. it’s all just too much!! How the hell are we supposed to do all this and more when we go back to work. Then also try and get to baby classes, out for a walk, play with baby in their long wake windows now!! I’ve had bedding in my washing machine for 2 days that I’ve not had a chance to hang out! Before people say “get someone to look after your baby so you can get it done”, yes good plan but I’m so exhausted from lack of sleep that any time I get to myself I want to relax or sleep! I’m considering getting a cleaner to come in once a week so hopefully that will help (even though expensive). I’m actually thinking of just chucking away anything that doesn’t have a place so it stops stressing me out 😅🫠😵‍💫

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I feel like this very much and at least my husband does the cooking. But literally everything else is me at the moment and he also makes a huge mess when cooking but I'm still so grateful he does. I'm trying to do everything with the least amount of things possible so it's easy to tidy but still it's like fighting the ocean. I was hoping it would be sunny enough that the washing could dry quickly but 🙃

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Yes, right there with you, all of the things you said plus Ive got a 3 year old too so tantrums, sorting school stuff, nursery things, clubs and helping my family. Some days I cant even look at the things that need doing. Time to myself which is nearly never consists of showering, eating, sleeping or getting the essential cleaning done. I feel overwhelmed too so you arent alone. Sometimes it really hard, just know you are doing a great job and dont sweat the small stuff. Yes throw more stuff, I had a massive clear out, less stuff helps 🙂

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Things I've learnt now I have a baby and a toddler (I struggled with just a baby!)
1) slow cooker is your friend. Throw it in, it does it's thing. Then you can mush it up for baby
2) weaning doesn't have to be hard. My first wasn't interested in food and then I felt like a failure when he didn't want what I felt like I'd slaved to make. Second is a foodie but her dinner? Dairylee triangle, three sticks courgette (pre cooked Thursday and just warmed) two strawberries, 1/4 nectarine and two rice cakes.
3) stick baby in highchair with a stick on toy whilst you hang up laundry. Otherwise I've found little and often helps. If clothes just have drool on them I give them a quick 14 minutes cycle and hang them out then it physiologically helps keeping the washing bin more empty! Otherwise washing us insane here too as I have a toddler who is potty training.
4) you don't have to go out everyday. If you need to stay in and do some bits then do
5) I have a cleaner who comes every 3 weeks and I feel that's a big reset.

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