Giving up on trying

I feel so alone rn my bf (not my sons father) doesn’t help with the baby or anything if I go to the store I need to bring th baby if I make food I need to have the baby so I ask him to do those things he’s not working or anything he plays videos games and doesn’t do much at all all I did was ask for help today since I was throwing up and he’s wanted to come at me with a smart ass mouth and be a dick to me so I did it on my own with a 3 month old on my hip i just feel like I need to do everything or I’ll get bitched at sorry just venting I guess im just so overwhelmed

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This relationship dynamic is not ok, I believe it might be abusive. Since he isn't working and isn't helping, are you able to get out?

I want to say first and foremost that there are consequences to our actions. When he’s hardly helping, or not helping at all, he’s losing that bonding time with baby that is crucial. It’s time that he takes accountability for his actions and realizes that he’s a dad and that the full load should not be put onto you. The longer you allow this, the more he will think it’s okay. You of course have to figure out what to do and how to handle it. I personally wouldn’t keep him around if he’s simply just playing video games.

Ok, so you asked him to leave and he refused, then blackmailed you (the cutting), and meanwhile he is abusive. This is a textbook case for relevant authorities to get involved (not necessarily police but could be organisations helping victims of abuse). You have the right to choose who lives in your house, and you have the right to cut off abusive people in your life. This person will treat your child in abusive ways too

He’s making me feel like it’s all me and he’s not at fault at all

Make him leave. I'm guessing he's not paying the rent and not on the lease if all he does is play video games. You enable him by letting him cheat, letting yourself be manipulated by his self harm, hes got it easy with you because he doesnt have to do a thing, of course hes not gonna want to leave. Tell him to leave and if he doesn't call the Police, make things happen, don't let him abuse you any longer. I watched my Mum go through this so I'm not just being mean, I'm being realistic, don't let your kid live in this. Get rid of the abusive problem.

Get rid of him ,, he will make everything harder for u if his not helping!

He needs to leave and y'all need to break up. You need to do for your sanity and the safety of your kid.

Is he paying any rent?

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Grieving my old life

Does life get any easier after losing yourself after you have a kid? For context, it’s my husband’s birthday today and we are nerds. He wanted to spend time with our 5 month old son and I while we played magic the gathering at our local card game store. Unfortunately, I barely got to play due to our son getting fussy and ready for bed so I took our son home while he stayed and played. I just realized I do not get to do the things I use to while my husband continues to get to do things and I beat myself up for feeling this way. I love and adore my son. He is the best blessing I could’ve ever asked for. Deep down I just grieve my old self and things I loved to do but now I don’t do them anymore cause I neither have the time or energy to do so. Is this normal to feel this way?

How would you handle this?

My daughter fell down a flight of stairs today in school. She asked to go to the nurse but the nurse was on lunch when she went. She was never sent back and she came home from school limping. She's 7. She was crying in pain and then I have her some Tylenol and an ice pack and she's been running around and doing cart wheels and horsing around with her sisters and seems fine now. What would you do? Not sure if I should leave it alone or what

My MIL wont shut up about my daughters eyes

MIL is upset because my daughter doesnt have colored eyes and needs to mention it everytime we see them. For context, my husband has blue eyes and my son has blue eyes. I have hazel eyes and my daughter has dark hazel eyes, almost brown.
My daughter will be 2 yrs old in a couple weeks. Since the day she was born, MIL has been obsessed with the fact that she doesnt have blue or green eyes. She bring her to the light to see if she can see some color. She jokes and says theyre starting to become greenish blue i see it.

Today we went over for lunch, she said: its crazy how she got the dark eyes gene. But she said it in a condescending, pitiful way, as if my daughter is not as pretty because her eyes are brown.

She is also so sensitive and a drama queen, if i say something she will start acting as a victim. So i just shut up, but it really bothers me that she sees my daughter as less because of her eye color.

How would you feel about this? My neice (persian) who is 4 has a bit of a mustache (not that noticeable but from close up you can tell) and my brother keeps asking her why she has a mustache! Shes 4!!!

Shes at that stage where now shes noticing her body even more and it breaks my heart. My sister has fought with him about it but he still does it. They both live together. His wife just smirks and shes a psychologist. I need advice because its pissing me off

Nursery

Hi my daughter left nursery last year to start school she had been there since she was 9 months old. My youngest is due to start there in September she’ll be 11 months old we never thought to look round it as it’s the same manager and most of the staff are the same so thought what would change. But my friend went to look round it today for her son and she said the pre school room was so messy and hectic and she felt like the staff were just watching the children not actually playing with them.
Now I’m in two minds of what to do. Is this ok for a preschool room to be like this? Or have they taken on too much that they can handle (I know they have to have ratios but the ratio is ridiculous)

Help

I’m posting anonymously because I’m honestly embarrassed and don’t really know who else to ask. I’m a young mom to a 6-month-old, and I feel like I’m completely drowning right now.

My daughter’s dad and I have been going through a really painful separation. We’ve gone back and forth between trying to fix things and realizing that things may never be healthy between us. There has been a lot of hurt, resentment, broken trust, arguing and feeling like I’ve been replaced. I still care about him, but at the same time I feel like I’ve lost so much respect for the way certain things have been handled. It’s exhausting trying to coparent with someone while also grieving the relationship and still being emotionally attached.

I feel like I’m constantly trying to prove that I’m growing, apologizing and fixing everything, while also taking care of our baby and trying to keep my own life together. I’m currently behind on bills and waiting on money that was supposed to be deposited. I’m trying to figure out rent, childcare, work and how to provide for my daughter, and it feels like everything is falling apart at the same time.

Lately I’ve been feeling incredibly hopeless, numb and overwhelmed. I love my daughter more than anything, and she is the reason I keep pushing, but I’m scared that I’m not strong enough to keep carrying all of this by myself. I feel guilty for even admitting that because I know she deserves a mom who has it together, but I genuinely feel like I’m running on empty.

I’m not looking for judgment, relationship bashing or people telling me to “just leave and move on.” I’m looking for advice from moms who have been through a painful breakup, financial hardship and postpartum emotions all at once. How did you rebuild your life? How did you emotionally detach while still having to coparent? How did you stop feeling like your whole future was gone? And are there any resources for struggling moms that actually helped you?

Please be kind. It took a lot for me to post this.