How would you feel about this? My neice (persian) who is 4 has a bit of a mustache (not that noticeable but from close up you can tell) and my brother keeps asking her why she has a mustache! Shes 4!!!

Shes at that stage where now shes noticing her body even more and it breaks my heart. My sister has fought with him about it but he still does it. They both live together. His wife just smirks and shes a psychologist. I need advice because its pissing me off

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As a Welsh-Italian, I was the same growing up and was so self conscious about my monobrow, upper lip hair and hairline and SUCH a young age, and that was with being surrounded by adults telling me my dark hair is natural and beautiful. Id steal my mums tweezers in secret, wear long trousers even when it was boiling hot to school to hide my dark leg hair. I dread to imagine how I’d have felt if someone had been poking fun at it too. Definitely keep them apart and nip it in the bud before it becomes a lifelong insecurity for her!!

Just to add my sister is a widow who works part time and moved into our family home. Her husband passed away a few months after she had given birth to her second child so she doesnt have the option of moving out or away from him. My brother and his wife live in our family home and he refuses to move out because its convenient for him to save money as he works close by

Ew kick him out

Eeeww what a vile person

Eeeew that is unacceptable! She is just a kid and he will make her selfconcious 😔 . It is not funny, you can explain to him that making fun of someone is NOT fun

Wait how old is your brother? Sounds so immature to pick that up about his little niece. I feel sorry for the wife she probably feels really uncomfortable and unable to say anything back.

Maybe you need to spell it out to your brother like a child that different types of people have different types of body hair 🥴🥴

You are absolutely right to be alarmed.

He is being poisonous to a young mind.

He is not living under his own roof so should abide by the rules.

I think everyone should start pointing out his flaws constantly like when are you having kids his hairline etc these people unfortunately won’t ever change
This little girl will 100% develop a body complex / insecurities
Hair is natural
It’s MAN that has beautified bold bodied women!!
I am at rage if I knew him
my goodness he would not get on with me…

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