Nursery

Hi my daughter left nursery last year to start school she had been there since she was 9 months old. My youngest is due to start there in September she’ll be 11 months old we never thought to look round it as it’s the same manager and most of the staff are the same so thought what would change. But my friend went to look round it today for her son and she said the pre school room was so messy and hectic and she felt like the staff were just watching the children not actually playing with them.
Now I’m in two minds of what to do. Is this ok for a preschool room to be like this? Or have they taken on too much that they can handle (I know they have to have ratios but the ratio is ridiculous)

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Have I a right to be angry?

My husband has ‘fallen to sleep’ on sofa. When I’ve gone downstairs to make a night feed, I’ve asked why he’s down here and that’s what he’s said. Fast forward 45 minutes later, he’s made no effort to come up to bed, which means another weekend of wakes and feeds for me and a full nights rest for him. Our baby is stopping out tomorrow and then it’ll fall to me to do it all again Sunday night and then through the week because he’s back at work. To top it off we seem to be back in the sleep regression 🙃 I’m so angry about it all that he just gets to ‘fall asleep’ anywhere and have another weekend ‘off duty’ then complains if he stops out one night on a weekend because he claims to have not spent time with him which I reply if you helped on a night, he’d not need to stop out for me to have a rest!
I’m so tired and overwhelmed so I could be just venting and overreacting but I don’t think I am!

Grieving my old life

Does life get any easier after losing yourself after you have a kid? For context, it’s my husband’s birthday today and we are nerds. He wanted to spend time with our 5 month old son and I while we played magic the gathering at our local card game store. Unfortunately, I barely got to play due to our son getting fussy and ready for bed so I took our son home while he stayed and played. I just realized I do not get to do the things I use to while my husband continues to get to do things and I beat myself up for feeling this way. I love and adore my son. He is the best blessing I could’ve ever asked for. Deep down I just grieve my old self and things I loved to do but now I don’t do them anymore cause I neither have the time or energy to do so. Is this normal to feel this way?

How would you feel in this situation

You’re going through a really tough time and you moved back in with your dad temporarily with your two young kids. 3 and half and 8 months old boys. Your aunt comes to visit a few times to see you and out of the blue she stops by with cheese for your 3 year old. Talking about. Oh don’t feed them junk food. Give them meat and cheese and milk and food like that. Mind you. The 3 year old is a bit on the skinny side but he’s very healthy, strong and full of energy. I know she meant well but it kind of rubbed me the wrong way. This aunt is also struggling financially so I know if she buys my kid something she did it out of care. Still made me feel bleh about everything. Like if you did care enough just ask about his diet. Ask how you can help. Not just drop off food which is going to end up in the trash because my kid won’t eat it lol

My MIL wont shut up about my daughters eyes

MIL is upset because my daughter doesnt have colored eyes and needs to mention it everytime we see them. For context, my husband has blue eyes and my son has blue eyes. I have hazel eyes and my daughter has dark hazel eyes, almost brown.
My daughter will be 2 yrs old in a couple weeks. Since the day she was born, MIL has been obsessed with the fact that she doesnt have blue or green eyes. She bring her to the light to see if she can see some color. She jokes and says theyre starting to become greenish blue i see it.

Today we went over for lunch, she said: its crazy how she got the dark eyes gene. But she said it in a condescending, pitiful way, as if my daughter is not as pretty because her eyes are brown.

She is also so sensitive and a drama queen, if i say something she will start acting as a victim. So i just shut up, but it really bothers me that she sees my daughter as less because of her eye color.

Potty training

Hi ladiesss
I think my daughter may be ready to potty train. She’s been running around trying to pull her diaper off and usually lets her butt crack hangout lol

My questions are
1) when did yk your daughter was ready to be potty trained
2) how did you start potty training
3) how long did it take
4) did you still use diapers at night and for how long

Any tips and tricks are welcomed and EMBRACED 😅 Thank you!!

How would you handle this?

My daughter fell down a flight of stairs today in school. She asked to go to the nurse but the nurse was on lunch when she went. She was never sent back and she came home from school limping. She's 7. She was crying in pain and then I have her some Tylenol and an ice pack and she's been running around and doing cart wheels and horsing around with her sisters and seems fine now. What would you do? Not sure if I should leave it alone or what