5 year old tantrums

Our little girl used to be such an sweet little girl and occasionally still is, but 95% of the time she is just whinging not listening to anything everything is a chore to her we make her so angry cause I asked her to get ready for bed. Literally everything I ask from her, I bring snack every day after school some times healthy some times a treat and it’s always she wanted something else then screams and cry’s the 25 min scar journey home. We sat down with her so many times to talk to her and ask what’s wrong why is she being like this and she just says don’t know and we talk about feeling and how to handle them and what to do but it don’t obvs seem to work when it’s needed.
She become a big sister last year November and I just feel like my whole maternity leave has been me feeling so down and depressed as I’ll I do is try but then end up moaning like I’m failing, her cause I don’t know why she being like that and failing my baby as it’s alway the older one and she just hears us shouting at each other. Cause I’m so drained after school runs I feel like I have nothing left to give my baby in the day who’s don’t deserve this at all she is the sweetest most chill baby girl ever. I feel like I the days going so fast and I’m just in a pit I try get out for walks but i just hate leaving the house now. And cause i feel like I havnt got the best time with baby girl on this mat leave I just resent my older one for making me feel like this constantly and it just making me want to give up and let her do what ever as I can’t be asked any more.

Don’t know the point of writing this tbh just wondered if I’m awful mum for resenting my older daughter when she was my first baby , love and everything in between. Is anyone else like this or just me?!?

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Breast and formula

My baby is 9 weeks old and we are now forumula feeding however, we started off combi feeding. When she was born, I was on blood pressure medication which delayed my milk coming through so I was topping her up with a bottle. She was then then jaudice and had phtotherapy. She could only be off the lights for half an hour at a time, so bottle was more efficient for her. This was a really stressful time and I spoke to the midwives about just formula feeding as my milk hadn't come and I wasn't in the headspace at the time. They encouraged me to express so then my milk came. I started to express and BF however, the expressing at home was awful and wasn't helping my mental health. I was BF but she would want more after and became really fussy at the breast, she would tug and shake it but nothing would come. I would then top her up. She eventually weaned herself off the breast and took a bottle much better. I now find myself getting really sad when I see other people successfully BF their baby. I know everyone's journey is different and formula feeding has allowed my husband ti share the load a bit and for me to get out the house, but I can't help feeling down about it all.

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Baby sleep

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“Like seriously people I can’t help that my baby has small feet.”

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Sometimes she’ll go down for like 20 min nap but I can’t even get her to sleep on me which before she would any one have any tips for naps in the day ☹️🩷

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