Nothing to talk about since becoming a mum (apart from my child)

Does anyone else feel like they have nothing to talk about since becoming a mum? I don't work and my child is 18 months so every day is spent with her. I go to a craft club once a week in the evening and I am also expecting a second child so don't have loads of energy to socilalise or even a big friendship circle. I'm generally happy with my life but I feel like when I get together with friends I have nothing to talk about with them apart from my child. Does anyone else feel like this?

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Traveling to Spain

Hi everyone. Im traveling to Spain next week and ive just read about the new rule they have introduced at border control where they can stop you and ask for proof of your financial situation?! I've read online that you have to prove you have more than £1000 in your bank account to fund your stay or you can be refused entry.. its random spot checks apparently. Has anyone else come across this? As a mum of 4 who has saved hard for a family holiday im not sure I'll have this money avaliable after bills next week. I work part time and have only just come off maternity leave🥺 panicking ....

Happy Pride Month 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

I've had a rough start to the month, I thought I was going to be able to start HRT before Pride/during the summer but due to sudden rescheduling on the office's part I will not be seen for treatment until late summer/early autumn, just depending on how things go. My state is trying to take HRT coverage away with my form of insurance and that may also cause further complications with me receiving treatment as well.

I've been going by he/they pronouns on certain spaces online (have not come out much in person yet), I do not involve my children in my transition (they are free to refer to me in whatever way feels most natural to them) they do not currently know about the details of my transition.

However today, my oldest (3yo) randomly referred to me as "he" and has been calling me "daddy" more frequently and that has made everything feel alright. Simply put, to my fellow LGBTQ+ members (& especially trans individuals) the right people will see you for who you are and accept you, even when you feel stuck or alone 🫶🏻 Happy Pride Month! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

Birthday disappointment

My birthday is less than two weeks after my LO. Last year when she was born, I was hardly present mentally or emotionally, far less ready to celebrate or anything. This year is my 30th. I have been talking about getting a Switch 2 as a gift for months, ever since that new Pokemon game came out. My birthday is this week and my partner let it slip that no one is getting it for me.
Am I sad that I'm not getting it? Yes. But more than that I feel forgotten about? Overlooked? Like this was the one thing I really wanted. I told people this. My parents usually get me a higher price tag gift so this wouldn't be something unusual. I feel like since she's been born I'm just in the background. Now I'm sitting on the bathroom floor trying to figure out how to be smiley and appreciative of whatever I do get.
I work so hard to make sure my family and friends get nice things for birthdays and holidays. I start Christmas shopping in October. I spend so much time looking out for others and then end up with a bunch of okay gifts that I don't really want. I don't know what to do or say. My partner has offered multiple times this evening to order it but I don't feel like that fixes it?

Friends?

I struggle making friends because I don’t feel like I really “fit in” anywhere and im pretty awkward but sometimes you just gotta take the risk so here it goes! Hi I’m Sarah! I’m 32, I have 5 pretty cool kiddos, I’m married and truly shock that someone actually tolerates me 😂. I love all things spooky so witchy Halloween horror fall vibes is my jazz. I’m a coffee addict who does enjoy water and wine sometimes. I like yoga, art, reading and anything outdoors. I’m part of the dead moms club so I use a lot of dark humor to cope with that. I’m sometimes brutally honest when I don’t mean to be and I guess that isn’t cool but hey 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m really the least judgmental person because we are all moms and humans just doing our best to get through the day. I’d love to meet other moms who actually like talking and not just a message here or there, I’m mainly a text/snapchat/fb kinda communicator but will do a phone call if necessary. I’m a good listener so if you need someone to vent to or need advice I’m your girl! I can also give you a pretty good laugh because my life is sadly comical most of the time.

Raising your libido

Hey ladies.

Im kinda embarrassed to be writing this.

Though what are some good ways to raise your libido?

Pregnancy is so humbling - vibrator edition

Had a bit of fun last night and wound up in triage because I was bleeding and had cramps.. I keep explaining 'I didn't have sex - just an orgasm' I've never seen a dr so confused. 'How did you achieve this orgasm?' My response 'A vibrator, which i also inserted inside. I've never had an issues with sex or bleeding - this is the first time' she looked at me like I had grown an extra head..

I didn't realise self pleasure ceast to exist whilst pregnant. I'm genuinely mortified..

I explained all this when I called - I wasn't overly concerned but better to be safe than sorry. The midwives were great about it but the Dr was .. I'm so embarrassed