I don’t identify with my kids names.

Has anyone else felt like this after giving your children names outside their culture and also giving them your husbands last name? I think about it daily and it really upsets me.

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What’s their cultural names? Depends on how you feel about the culture in general and if it doesn’t resonate with you, perhaps you can give them a little nickname of your own that gives you and your children more connection?

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Hello! What does each name mean? Learn the meaning and hopefully you can have a fresh perspective. For example I learned when I was 31 that my first and middle names mean pure and full of grace (in Hebrew) and it gave me so much peace.

Plus, you can always add a third name. You can add it to your child's birth certificate and update their records.

All the best mama.

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Our baby was strapped in the high chair about 10m across the room from him. When my husband walked over I said “caught you, you left our baby unattended in the high chair”.

My husband then immediately got quiet, claimed he wasn’t hungry anymore and was generally in a bad mood. I said “why aren’t you hungry anymore? Is it because I called you out on leaving our baby alone?”

He then stormed off and said “good luck with breakfast”, before sending a flurry of angry texts saying he did nothing wrong, he’s a great dad, and I treat him like a fucking child, telling him off like I’m his mum. He said “our baby has never even looked close to falling out”, to which I responded “it only takes two seconds”.

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Context: the high chair is an ikea one with only a 3 point harness.

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