Does anyone feel like they’re just constantly on high alert? And can’t relax as a mum, even if your little one isn’t with you.

Not sure if it’s because I’m solo parent and don’t have any family. (Only paid for childcare). Or because I have neuro divergent tendencies.. I’m not sure tbh. Who knows.
Is this just the life of a Mum that knows there is no backup or this every Mum and when does it stop? :/

So, like today, she’s with a lady who takes her often for 3/4 hours.
I should be using this time to relax, well and get jobs done but I can’t get done without a whining toddler around.
Had even booked an at home sports Massage, which I really really needed. Hadn’t had one since before I had my little one. But I cancelled / rescheduled. Simply because I feel like I’ve got a million jobs to do.

But I just constantly feel on high a lot and I can’t relax. Like before I had a child.

For context, I did come off sertraline a while back. I know I don’t need to go on it again. I don’t feel depressed. just don’t feel my mind or body relax and switch off ever and it’s so so draining.

Does anyone have this as well?

I do have a little stash of diazepam that I use now and then, but to be honest, that doesn’t even work. I think it’s just being a Mum I guess? :/

in our community

I don’t identify with my kids names.

Has anyone else felt like this after giving your children names outside their culture and also giving them your husbands last name? I think about it daily and it really upsets me.

Equal share of responsibilities

Has anyone managed to get their other halves to be able to contribute to just housework on top of their work schedule without having to constantly ask or remind them? If so tips please? I'm triggered by doing a food shopping list with my husband for us to go food shopping for him to say "oh I thought you were going to go out and get it". Mind you it's a big shop and neither of us drive so how did he think I was going to manage it on my own fucking lazy twat! Mind you I always pick up bits and bobs when I'm out anyway I guess he's too used to me doing it all. So now I'm back in bed drinking cheap Sangria from Morrisons and about to watch trash TV whilst he can sort the baby out today. Mama's taking a day off!

My husband says I’m toxic

He told me I’m toxic and I’m poisoning our relationship because I only want to have sex when he screams at me about how I never give it to him. I told him that coercion, and maybe if he didn’t get so angry every time I said no, I’d want to more often. I told him this makes him the toxic one. He says with everything he does for me and the family, the least I can do is lay on my back without complaining. I told him it needs to be something we both want, and he said we only do it when I want… I said no, because he also wants it when I do, and there have been times I’ve initiated and he said no and I respected that. I said if anything, we do it more when he wants because he’s not wrong about me giving in when he yells at me. He says he shouldn’t have to yell at me to get taken care of properly, and that I’m failing him as a wife. I told him he sounds ridiculous and he’s the one being toxic, to which he flipped out with “I’m always the problem” and I told him yeah, he is always the problem. I’m not perfect, but I spend a lot of time fixing what he breaks. He ended up telling me if we didn’t have sex last night then he was divorcing me. I told him I wasn’t doing it, and that I agreed maybe a divorce is best if sex is really the only things he sees me for. He left before I woke up this morning. I haven’t even tried to contact him. I’m still just so… dumbfounded?? Like the actual fuck?

Greek yoghurt

What Greek yoghurt is everyone using? (uk)
I can only seem to find Greek style yoghurt, is this ok ? Is it pretty much the same thing ?

Holiday

Hi all, we have booked our first holiday as a family and my daughter will be nearing 3 years old. What would you recommend for a first time flight with a toddler?

Toys/Play Ideas for 1 Year Old

Hiya,

Just looking for recommendations for toys/play ideas for a one year old?

What toys do your one year olds play with frequently and love?

Also what play ideas have worked well with your one year olds? I.e. “cleaning” animal toys for instance? (Not sure if that’s actually a more older play idea but hence the need for some ideas please).

Thanks in advance ☺️