Am I being over dramatic about this or valid

Near end of pregnancy (any day now) and my husband wants to invite his family over to watch a fight and I said I’m not sure I’m up for hosting and having people over rn as I haven’t been feeling well and we have a small place so I can’t really hide away. He said I could just lay in our room while they are here if I’m not feeling good but idk I just don’t feel like having company. So we’re both kinda upset about it rn what so you think ?

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Valid. You're at the very end of your pregnancy, not feeling well, and it's your home too. Being told to just stay in your room while guests are over isn't really the same as being comfortable in your own space. If you're not up for company, that's a reasonable boundary. Maybe a compromise would be him watching the fight at a family member's house or postponing having people over until after the baby arrives and you're feeling better.

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Why do they have to be at your place, esp if it’s small? Just tell him to get someone else to host, he shouldn’t be so adamant to host at yours

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I would be livid. my pregnancy was really hard and loud noises can trigger early Labor. It's top priority to keep mom happy so you don't stress the fetus. Tell him if he wont do it for you do at least do it for the baby? 🤷💕 sorry you're not feeling well. sending love!! you could also just take a bath the whole time if they come over so nobody can use the bathroom 😅 that's the jerk in me talking....but it would be hilarious 😆

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