Am I the wrong one here? Why is my husband giving me a hard time post delivery?

I had my baby 21 days ago, it’s only me n my husband in the country and my pregnancy has been hard with hyperemesis for 4 months n I couldn’t get out of bed without his help, he’s been really kind n supportive throughout. But since the time we have had the baby, he’s throwing soo much anger n hatred on me I do not understand why. His patience level has dropped significantly, I see the work he does and doing my best not to add on any more work or even emotionally, keeping it to just myself. I lost my dad last year suddenly and my expectations are zero on anything right now, I’m just grateful that my health n the baby’s. I have literally been easier with my mood swings throughout than my regular periods. My mums here to help me from a month now n I really do need her and we need the extra hand. His parents were supposed to travel for the birth but couldn’t because their visas got rejected. I understand he misses them but is he jealous that my mums here n showing it on me? Hes not happy about things my mum does with the baby, like bathing n stuff n when the same thing comes from his mom, he’s happy to do. Im ignoring everything because i dont have the mental capacity right now. He’s getting into petty fights with me all the time, and says I treat him like shit n I think I’m PURE n everything he did is shit. This is out of no where, I just can’t take it anymore. He usually does the diaper change n i help him do, last night in between the fight, the baby needed a change n while he sat there, i did it n he did not show a sign of helping n next thing I hear is I’m not letting him do the baby things like am I stopping him n how I treat him like shit, he kept going on about how bad I’m and called me a ‘fucking egoistic bitch’ and walked out of the room. This was a first of its kind. He came back telling sorry n he dint mean it, by this time it was 5am n I hadn’t had a minute of sleep and been breastfeeding around the clock. I told him I need a break n to reduce interactions with me n care only for the baby for my sanity, but he still stop. I asked him to sleep in the guest room n my mum will help me in the night from today, he got my mum to swap right immediately. I never thought of him being so disrespectful and now with the child and increasing fights I’m soo afraid.

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Husband left 8mo. unattended in high chair at hotel breakfast

Husband went to hotel breakfast buffet with our 8 month old a few minutes to get set up. When I walked in I saw my husband on his own getting some fruit.

Our baby was strapped in the high chair about 10m across the room from him. When my husband walked over I said “caught you, you left our baby unattended in the high chair”.

My husband then immediately got quiet, claimed he wasn’t hungry anymore and was generally in a bad mood. I said “why aren’t you hungry anymore? Is it because I called you out on leaving our baby alone?”

He then stormed off and said “good luck with breakfast”, before sending a flurry of angry texts saying he did nothing wrong, he’s a great dad, and I treat him like a fucking child, telling him off like I’m his mum. He said “our baby has never even looked close to falling out”, to which I responded “it only takes two seconds”.

Husband now not talking to me and our last day on holiday is ruined.

Context: the high chair is an ikea one with only a 3 point harness.

I don’t identify with my kids names.

Has anyone else felt like this after giving your children names outside their culture and also giving them your husbands last name? I think about it daily and it really upsets me.

My husband says I’m toxic

He told me I’m toxic and I’m poisoning our relationship because I only want to have sex when he screams at me about how I never give it to him. I told him that coercion, and maybe if he didn’t get so angry every time I said no, I’d want to more often. I told him this makes him the toxic one. He says with everything he does for me and the family, the least I can do is lay on my back without complaining. I told him it needs to be something we both want, and he said we only do it when I want… I said no, because he also wants it when I do, and there have been times I’ve initiated and he said no and I respected that. I said if anything, we do it more when he wants because he’s not wrong about me giving in when he yells at me. He says he shouldn’t have to yell at me to get taken care of properly, and that I’m failing him as a wife. I told him he sounds ridiculous and he’s the one being toxic, to which he flipped out with “I’m always the problem” and I told him yeah, he is always the problem. I’m not perfect, but I spend a lot of time fixing what he breaks. He ended up telling me if we didn’t have sex last night then he was divorcing me. I told him I wasn’t doing it, and that I agreed maybe a divorce is best if sex is really the only things he sees me for. He left before I woke up this morning. I haven’t even tried to contact him. I’m still just so… dumbfounded?? Like the actual fuck?

Equal share of responsibilities

Has anyone managed to get their other halves to be able to contribute to just housework on top of their work schedule without having to constantly ask or remind them? If so tips please? I'm triggered by doing a food shopping list with my husband for us to go food shopping for him to say "oh I thought you were going to go out and get it". Mind you it's a big shop and neither of us drive so how did he think I was going to manage it on my own fucking lazy twat! Mind you I always pick up bits and bobs when I'm out anyway I guess he's too used to me doing it all. So now I'm back in bed drinking cheap Sangria from Morrisons and about to watch trash TV whilst he can sort the baby out today. Mama's taking a day off!

Greek yoghurt

What Greek yoghurt is everyone using? (uk)
I can only seem to find Greek style yoghurt, is this ok ? Is it pretty much the same thing ?

Holiday

Hi all, we have booked our first holiday as a family and my daughter will be nearing 3 years old. What would you recommend for a first time flight with a toddler?