1 to 2 kids

Hey I’m just wondering about the transition from one to two kids, I know it’s not gonna be all easy. Im so happy to have another little one on the way. I just want to know if it’s gonna be impossible to have time together with my partner, or when we go on holidays is it all stress, or just daily outings in general. I guess I’m just worried about loosing myself completely in motherhood (don’t get me wrong it’s the best thing that ever happened to me I love my kids more than life) I’m just scared life is just going to be all stress and that mine and my partners relationship may go from what we are to almost like roommates just getting through it all. Sorry for the rambling is having an anxious moment I guess. Thank you for listening x

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I just commented this on the last post lol but it rings true here!! Not done it yet so no personal advice, Im 28 weeks lol. However 4 of my friends from my baby group had their second when our Dec 23 babies were just 2 and they have all found it brilliant and a far easier adjustment than first baby! So I am holding on to that lol. They are much more themselves this time around and more relaxed x

Mum to 3 here, 2 year old (dec 23) 1 year old (April 25) and 11 week old (march 26) … 0-1 was hell, 1-2 was a breeze, 2-3 I need another pair of hands and eyes 🤣 you’ll be fine! Don’t stress, go with the flow, get into a routine x

I have Nov 2023 baby and a 5 month old, so far I have found the transition from 1-2 much easier than 0-1. I will say my second baby seems much more chilled than my first who at the time i thought was quite chilled, I realise now he was not😅

I’m obviously not at the stage where I have 2 running around yet, but logistically handling a baby and a toddler has not been as tough as i anticipated, when my partner isn’t here I can juggle bath/bedtime alone which I thought would be impossible. I’m not going to play it down and say it’s easy, when they both need you at once of course it’s tough but as a parent I feel much more confident second time round which I think plays a huge part in it. Honestly day to day, getting out and about, if anything I’ve found easier purely because I feel more relaxed…basically just learned to embrace the chaos 🤣

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