Feeling like a failure

I haven’t posted in a while. But over the last few weeks I’ve been feeling like a failure. I’ve been getting short with my 2.5 year old and impatient which I’ve never done before. I feel like I’m failing her. I started a new job and it hasn’t been easy. I miss my old job and my friends there. My child’s father doesn’t help really at all and doesn’t communicate (yay for co parenting). I’m just tired of it. I have my mom to help but that’s it. I just don’t know what to do. Some days i just want to curl up and cry. I just don’t know what to do anymore.

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Don't feel bad.. please. I have a supportive husband, parents who help out, and a job im familiar with and I get short with my 2.5 year old all the time. This is a hard age. I always apologize after I yell, and it helps us bond and helps me regulate. Give yourself more credit mama!

Agree with Melissa! I’m entirely on my own without a husband and I have a very stressful job. I am short with my 2.5 year old way more than I want to be, but the reality is that being a mom is crazy hard and all you can do is apologize and repair the relationship. You’re never going to be perfect and your child doesn’t need you to be. They just need to know that you care.

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Is it a woman's duty to have sex with their partner no matter how she feels and to even put her babies 2nd just to please him?

Even if she is post-partum, the default parent, doing everything around the house or maybe not feeling up to it... Should her duty be to have sex? Otherwise he has a "right" to go elsewhere for it or a "right" to treat her unfairly if doesn't? Also should the babies/children come last just to fulfill this "duty"?

Help. Are men really this lazy??

My boyfriend and I drunk till 4am on Friday night and I woke him at 7.45 on Saturday morning to open his front door to go to work. But he never messaged me till 3.40pm and said he was only wakened. He was really drunk on the Friday night but do guys really sleep this long ? I could never sleep this long no matter what!’

How is everyone having sex with so little time?

Honestly, having a newborn/baby under 1 is already challenging specially with the nights where the baby is fighting sleep…how is everyone here finding the time to have sex? Also with bigger wake windows and no family support around to watch the baby!!

When did contact naps end for you?

When were you able to put your baby in a crib or bassinet for naps without your baby waking up or crying.

Putting the baby down

Hey, I have a 5 month old baby boy who is so clingy towards me. I absolutely love it and I love him to pieces; however I cannot get him to go down at all. I know they say co sleeping is dangerous, but I’ve done a lot of research and follow a lot of women who co sleep with their babies on instagram to make sure I do it the safest way possible because he just will not go in his crib. If I put him down, he instantly cries and will scream the place down until I pick him up. I don’t know what to do, I can’t get anything done around the house and my body is just so achey all the time from holding him 24/7. Any tips??? I’ve tried loads but nothing works, I can’t even get him on the dummy, he can’t keep it in his mouth and he just wants to eat his hands all the time x

Intimacy at 36 weeks

Are people still managing to have sex? The last few times we’ve had sex I’ve felt so much pressure down below that I’ve genuinely feared that I might go into labour. Wondering if it might be time to stop until baby is here? 🤷‍♀️