How do you get your kids to stay in bed?

Every night we brush his teeth, read him a book and cuddles and back rubs and then we say good night. And every night he comes out 20 times for the most random reasons. How do I keep him in there? I feel like the only way he will actually stay in his room as if I start to get mad and I’m tired of being an angry mom how do I stay patient and get him to understand it’s bedtime?

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My son went through a phase like this and he’d be begging me to lay on the floor in his room. I started telling him that I would check on him in a few minutes. He’d stay awake long enough for me to check one time, then once he knew I’d come back he’d usually fall asleep. This is a hard season, stay strong and do your best to stay patient

This is just a need for connection. I would recommend you lie in bed with him for ten minutes at bedtime (if you already do, go ten minutes longer).

Then stay in the room for another ten minutes but not touching him. Just keeping him company. Then leave.

If you need to go even slower and more staggered, I'll link an article

https://sarahockwell-smith.com/2016/06/16/getting-to-goodnight-and-go/

Just keep him company a little longer .it's very obvious children don't want to be left alone to fall asleep.i just lay next to him , 20-30 minutes he's out .

I have never said goodnight and shut the door. I lie w him, read him his 3 books chat to him and hug him to sleep I know that’ll only last couple more years and he’s my last so I’m gonna savour it.

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