Husband refusing condoms

I came off birth control a few weeks back as I want to give my body a rest (bad side effects)
We have been using pull-out method but im just worried everytime incase he doesnt pull out quick enough.
He wont wear a condom and just laughed when I suggested it.
We do want to try for another baby in a few months just not right now!!

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What an immature prick, how old is he? 16?

FYI I'm now 19 weeks pregnant off the pull out 'method' 😂 he pulled out in time but you can get pregnant off the precum so maybe let your partner know that! If you're not comfortable and he's not respecting that though that definitely warrants a deeper conversation x

How about the copper coil , non hormonal and you can get it removed when you’re ready to conceive again?

Pull out method doesn’t work. I have a 26year which is living proof. What side effects are you getting from your contraception?

My "see what happens, pull out method" because I didn't want to use birth control cause it messes up my hormones is now 1 year old 😅 we wanted children close together but got told to wait because I had an emergency section!

He doesnt respect you if he wont use a condom.

My husband always thought he hated condoms. But ive not returned to taking the pill. I said condoms or no sex, period. He was a bit hesitant as to be honest we have never used them and he hadnt used one since he was a teenager (which was a VERY long time ago). After he was annoyed at himself for being so silly about condoms.

Pull out method is not great. If he has any sperm left in the tubes from last time he came then that can impregnant you before he actually orgasms. Pre cum can be loaded with viable sperm and he wont know if he is precuming

Copper coil! Non hormonal and easy to take in and out. Does hurt slightly and did make my periods heavier but the most natural way. However why is it down to you!!!! You’ve just done the hardest graft having your baby - your husband should be doing what he can on his end. Stand strong and push for him to use condoms or no sex !

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