Am I Being Selfish??

Hi everyone! FTM here! i need some advice about the convo me and my partner have been having.. he wants everyone to come and see our baby at the hospital i however, don’t want anyone there. he’s talking about his brothers, mother, stepdad, bio dad, grandma and grandad to come see our baby boy again, i do not.
My family live 3hrs away so its not an option for me whatsoever and I’ve come to terms with that. my point is, i want to spend time with the family i now have, i dont want people coming to see our son just after he’s been born and everything i’ve emotionally and physically had to go through.
Am i being selfish? he seems quite upset by the matter which i dont want but i don’t want to see my own family after going through it let alone his (would also like to say i do get on with his family and they seem fine that we want to be in our bubble, his mum even advices me to)

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I've had 3 babies. Nobody came to the hospital apart from my other children

And then nobody came to visit for a week

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When we had our baby, the only person who met him in the hospital was my mum and that was because she was driving us home as my partner cannot drive. If he could or we'd managed a home birth then we wouldnt have seen anyone for a couple of weeks. You want to protect that time with your baby as much as possible

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