Am i overreacting?

Ftm to my son who is 6 weeks old, my partner has just gone back to working nights meaning I have to do them on my own, they’ve mostly been ok a few tough nights but we’ve got through it, my family have always been really supportive but recently they’ve been offering to ‘come and take him in the morning to go on a walk so I can have a break’ and I appreciate the offer but it’s making me feel really uncomfortable, I’m loving motherhood and don’t feel like I need to have a break I love being with my son. I’d be happy for them to come here and see him and watch him if I needed to sleep if I’d had an awful night but I feel uncomfortable with them taking him out without me especially as he’s ebf, I just don’t know what to say I feel bad turning down the help and support

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"I really appreciate the offer, I'm not ready yet for him to be out of the house without me but would love for you to come round and visit and have some cuddles then maybe if I'm feeling tired I can get some rest knowing he's just downstairs with people who love him 😊". The intent is nice, but you can be honest that this isn't the support you need, there's nothing wrong with you being honest. If they're pushy about it then it becomes uncomfortable and I'd just say no thank you until they get the message.

The comment above is a great way of putting it. Later on you will likely need the help their offering now but right now is not the time and you're not ready for it and that's fair enough so communicate that as clearly as possible. Let them know what would be actually nice/helpful for you now. You can always say you're open to expanding that in the future.

Just say...

"I'm more than happy for you to come over. I might nap, I might not, but would rather you stay here with him than take him out"

I get what you mean, but their intentions are likely very good to help you out, especially if they are parents themselves, they know how tough solo parenting can be.

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So my one fucking fear came true! I feel sooo mad at myself and mad at the situation and gutted in general.
We had another family over to our house (we never host people but weve known them along time and they had visited us once on vacation and the boys played well in the pool).
My son is 4 and the boy is *update*15 turning 16 . I found out in 10 minutes that they were in a playroom together before i realized and his sister went downstairs to check on them. I have a camera outside the room and saw them come out adjusting their pants. It looked suspicious but ive been told i am paranoid about this stuff so kept it at theback of my mind. I noticed my son toucing his penis more that evening. I went to bed and couldnt stop thinking about it. Today we noticed him retract his penis and my husband said what you doing (not something he normally does) etc we asked a few questions and he said the boys name touched it and he licked the boys penis. I am dying inside!! I have feared this happening. Ive had conversations about no one touching your body and private parts etc but I knew he didnt fully grasp and also in a situation with a friend feels alot different 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ i donno what I want out of this post other than that I am beside myself. We’ve called the family and they are going to call back they were very sorry and shocked too. I am sooo mad I let this happen. I put my son in the hands of someone to take advantage in our own house 😩 now I am like this opens so many doors for future abuse and for him to even be an abuser without even fully grasping it. It feels fucking so gut wrenching. I am a fully time mom. My sons never been watched by a grandma, relative, daycare etc. ive been so ontop of things i thought and I still failed!! In 10 minutes 😩

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I have 2 weeks of mat leave left and I feel like I’m wasting my time by just mooching round the shops. What things have you done that I can try? I live in north west just out of Liverpool. I do a lot at the weekends when my husbands home, but not much on my own. Spam me with ideas! Weather not great, so walks etc not ideal.

All I ask for is 5 mins to go to the washroom in peace

I don't want the door to be opened by my 3 yo asking where xyz dino or cars are
I don't want my baby crying because I left the room
I don't want the dog scratching at the door because I closed the door
I don't want my husband calling me on the phone because one of the kids is crying

Is it bad if I mostly stay at home?

I spend most of my time at home with my toddler because there is endless cleaning/cooking to do and I am genuinely drained with the mental load of running the household. I aim to go out every other day for a small picnic or at the very least a walk, but mostly on weekends for everyone to socialize since my partner is there to help and we are able to have family time. I do not have any external help so even if i am sick its just me having to push through. My husband does not understand. He often compares his work to mine and says I am lucky I get to be home. I think he does not realize how much I do. No child comes with a manual, so what are we doing?

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