Child Sexual abuse *trigger warning

So my one fucking fear came true! I feel sooo mad at myself and mad at the situation and gutted in general.
We had another family over to our house (we never host people but weve known them along time and they had visited us once on vacation and the boys played well in the pool).
My son is 4 and the boy is 11 or 12. I found out in 10 minutes that they were in a playroom together before i realized and his sister went downstairs to check on them. I have a camera outside the room and saw them come out adjusting their pants. It looked suspicious but ive been told i am paranoid about this stuff so kept it at theback of my mind. I noticed my son toucing his penis more that evening. I went to bed and couldnt stop thinking about it. Today we noticed him retract his penis and my husband said what you doing (not something he normally does) etc we asked a few questions and he said the boys name touched it and he licked the boys penis. I am dying inside!! I have feared this happening. Ive had conversations about no one touching your body and private parts etc but I knew he didnt fully grasp and also in a situation with a friend feels alot different 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ i donno what I want out of this post other than that I am beside myself. We’ve called the family and they are going to call back they were very sorry and shocked too. I am sooo mad I let this happen. I put my son in the hands of someone to take advantage in our own house 😩 now I am like this opens so many doors for future abuse and for him to even be an abuser without even fully grasping it. It feels fucking so gut wrenching. I am a fully time mom. My sons never been watched by a grandma, relative, daycare etc. ive been so ontop of things i thought and I still failed!! In 10 minutes 😩

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Wow I’m so sorry. Atleast he told you because some kids don’t even tell anyone abt these things. That boy is much older . I hope things get better . We all make mistakes just don’t trust I guess him being in a room unsupervised with other kids.

all I can do is send you my prayers and also thank you for sharing because even though I bet it was really hard for you to write out, it might help someone stay safe. I'm especially sending prayers for your little boy and support. as far as the other family saying they are shocked, I would find out if they have had a more serious conversation with their son about it and what sort of steps they are going to make to ensure he hasn't done it to anyone else or that he wont.
I'm just so so sorry. 😮‍💨

I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t blame yourself for this. It is absolutely 100% not your fault. He’s 4, it’s no surprise he didn’t fully grasp the conversation, but that doesn’t make it your fault. All I could think to do now that might help is to maybe look into therapy for you and your boy.

Have you talked to the parents of the boys? I definitely would start there and talk about what happened. Oh sorry I guess I skipped that entire sentence oops. I’m sorry this has happened. I would try not to make a big deal out of it to your son. As in don’t make him feel bad about what happened but help him to know that it wasn’t okay what happened.

I’m so sorry this happened to your son. I’d seek professional help to have peace of mind that you are on the correct path.
Since COVID there was a rise in children as perpetrators 😢💔

This is not your fault. I'm so sorry this happened to your little boy and your family. This could happen to us all. You seem really on top of it and a great mother. He is young and loved/supported so much by his family. Just a thought, I would seek professional support for you and your family with this.
Also thank you for the awareness with this.

Wow. I'm so very sorry. That could sadly happen to any of us and that's absolutely disgusting and scary. I send you and your little boy a big hug.

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