Is it bad if I mostly stay at home?

I spend most of my time at home with my toddler because there is endless cleaning/cooking to do and I am genuinely drained with the mental load of running the household. I aim to go out every other day for a small picnic or at the very least a walk, but mostly on weekends for everyone to socialize since my partner is there to help and we are able to have family time. I do not have any external help so even if i am sick its just me having to push through. My husband does not understand. He often compares his work to mine and says I am lucky I get to be home. I think he does not realize how much I do. No child comes with a manual, so what are we doing?

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Girl nooo I never leave my house cause now a days you can’t even go to a park .

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I don't think its bad you mostly stay home simply because taking care of kids is a lot of work on our hands. Sometimes I cant get laundry folded because my daughter will knock it over 7 times before I can get it put away. So I understand. I also do the cooking and cleaning, so it is a lot. It seems like the 1hr we get to sit down was 10 minutes and we have to get up and do something else. My fiancé is like that sometimes til he sees her doing it to him and im like yeah she is like that all day long.

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Same situation. At first i also feel bad but given the loads we are doing everyday at home, we are super mamas. We cant hardly have time for ourselves. Be kind to yourself and know you are doing great with raising your child and managing all the responsibilities at home. 🙂

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I always stay home I had 2 under two now, 2 and the baby 7 months… I could go out but we don’t eat fast food/ restaurants, etc so we made our house super fun with playgrounds, pool, so we invite our friend over and they love that

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Am I overreacting?

Bit annoyed, we have 2 kids, a 2yr old and 2 month old. Im ebf so bit limited to time with toddler and my hubby takes him out on the weekend usually leaving me at home with baby.
I said today, I cant do a full day out as im nto confident in bf in public etc. So hubby went out, then after his nap said hed go to his mums and be back for dinner.
Ive got toddlers dinner ready and it got to 4:50pm and he says hes given him dinner at his mums and he will be bk by 5:30pm.... we put him to bed at 6pm

Im pist off as ive literally not seen him pretty much all day, we give him dinner between 4:30/5pm so letting me know that late takes the piss.

So im literally ginna get him dressed and put him to bed im so upset

Just wanted somewhere to vent and reassurance im not overreacting

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Am I the wrong one here? Why is my husband giving me a hard time post delivery?

I had my baby 21 days ago, it’s only me n my husband in the country and my pregnancy has been hard with hyperemesis for 4 months n I couldn’t get out of bed without his help, he’s been really kind n supportive throughout. But since the time we have had the baby, he’s throwing soo much anger n hatred on me I do not understand why. His patience level has dropped significantly, I see the work he does and doing my best not to add on any more work or even emotionally, keeping it to just myself. I lost my dad last year suddenly and my expectations are zero on anything right now, I’m just grateful that my health n the baby’s. I have literally been easier with my mood swings throughout than my regular periods. My mums here to help me from a month now n I really do need her and we need the extra hand. His parents were supposed to travel for the birth but couldn’t because their visas got rejected. I understand he misses them but is he jealous that my mums here n showing it on me? Hes not happy about things my mum does with the baby, like bathing n stuff n when the same thing comes from his mom, he’s happy to do. Im ignoring everything because i dont have the mental capacity right now. He’s getting into petty fights with me all the time, and says I treat him like shit n I think I’m PURE n everything he did is shit. This is out of no where, I just can’t take it anymore. He usually does the diaper change n i help him do, last night in between the fight, the baby needed a change n while he sat there, i did it n he did not show a sign of helping n next thing I hear is I’m not letting him do the baby things like am I stopping him n how I treat him like shit, he kept going on about how bad I’m and called me a ‘fucking egoistic bitch’ and walked out of the room. This was a first of its kind. He came back telling sorry n he dint mean it, by this time it was 5am n I hadn’t had a minute of sleep and been breastfeeding around the clock. I told him I need a break n to reduce interactions with me n care only for the baby for my sanity, but he still stop. I asked him to sleep in the guest room n my mum will help me in the night from today, he got my mum to swap right immediately. I never thought of him being so disrespectful and now with the child and increasing fights I’m soo afraid.

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