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How would u feel or how would u react if ur husband told u that you’re a burden for him?

For context, we disagree on alot of things mainly because he always wants to be the macho alfa. He started raising his voice at me and i told him to stop and calm down because if i were to talk to him like he does to me he wasnt gunna like it. Well i got fed up and i raised my voice and told him that he feels like hes the man only because he brings money in and pays for everything. And then feels so big cause he has tha authority to take things away from us. Ex. Our vehicle, he says if we dont keep our crap out of it hes gunna end up taking the keys. Mind u i sold my car and put money in for that vehicle as well. Anyways he didnt like what i told him and he was like well ur just a fu**ing burden idk wtf im doing with u. Im a SAHM, im with the kids 24/7 (4 kids) i clean,cook, attend to him and everyone elses needs! Im mentally and emotionally out of it! He doesn’t even give me spending money for me or the kids! But yet im a burden?!! He doesn’t appreciate what i do!

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Am I Being Selfish??

Hi everyone! FTM here! i need some advice about the convo me and my partner have been having.. he wants everyone to come and see our baby at the hospital i however, don’t want anyone there. he’s talking about his brothers, mother, stepdad, bio dad, grandma and grandad to come see our baby boy again, i do not.
My family live 3hrs away so its not an option for me whatsoever and I’ve come to terms with that. my point is, i want to spend time with the family i now have, i dont want people coming to see our son just after he’s been born and everything i’ve emotionally and physically had to go through.
Am i being selfish? he seems quite upset by the matter which i dont want but i don’t want to see my own family after going through it let alone his (would also like to say i do get on with his family and they seem fine that we want to be in our bubble, his mum even advices me to)

When should I stop taking toddler meal to restaurant ?

For context we enjoy going out for dinner. My toddler is 17 months and I always take something for her that I know she will like and will take her a while to eat so that we have some time to enjoy our mains. We've ordered twice before - once was pizza and she screamed when it came out as she was hungry but couldn't have it until it cooled (which took ages!) and another time we got something from the Thai that she would eat at home but she had 2 bites and wouldn't eat the rest. We're going for a roast on Sunday (which she doesn't like) so I was planning on taking something. Is it still acceptable to do that at 17 months?

My husband didn't say goodnight

So my husband has gone to Paris for a business trip and I am only 8 weeks PP. He has left me with a baby and another child as well as 2 cats and the cat has kittens. So there is a LOT to do. I am exhausted. Not only does the baby just not sleep but I have to be showered and ready for the school run by 8.30. It's just honestly a nightmare. Well I was fine with all of this as long as my husband just follows one simple effing rule. If he goes out drinking can he just call me when he gets home. Thats it. So this evening I tried to call him he ignored my calls eventually answers and I hear other voices including female voices. He tells me he's going for a work dinner. Ok. Why didnt he tell me before? Then I expected him to call me when it was over. He dodnt. Mind you we just had this argument last night because he did the same fucking thing so I reminded him all he has to do is call me to say goodnight. So obviously I think hes cheating on me. Im just so annoyed and angry and feeling emotional because if hes not cheating on me then what if he was on an accident or something? I am feeling sick with panic and anxiety. Honestly fuck him. Stupid fucking cunt. Thats all. Sorry just needed to rant.

Do you let family kiss your baby?

I’ve seen a few people say they don’t want family kissing their baby. I get it for the first few months but saw someone say they wouldn’t let in-laws kiss baby at 4 months. What are your thoughts? Why not if no?

Also what age do you think it’s acceptable? I think when they’re a little older they can decide for themselves. You should never force a child into any type of affection

I let family / in-laws kiss my baby and don’t see an issue as long as there’s no Coldsores or illness

Feeling insecure 4 months into 2 under 2🫨

Partner got his hair transplant 2 months ago and started going gym again.
I can’t lie he looks hotter than ever before meanwhile I feel like absolute shit.
He’s tries to help but it’s not enough.

He would never be happy with me leaving them with him to go do something for myself like my hair or just some time with my friends yet his life remains the same, in fact he’s thriving.

Only thing I’m happy with is he does on Sundays he lets me have a 1 hour lay in while he deals with toddler and baby.

No I don’t have a village just him.

Am I overreacting?

Would this ongoing dynamic wear you down?

Partner got home from work, spent 45 minutes chatting to a neighbour, then happily went for a little drive with him.

Meanwhile, I was trying to sort dinner. I offered to pay for a Chinese because he had no money. The only place open required collection. He agreed to go, but not before huffing and saying, completely unprompted, “I’m not doing the washing up though.”

While he was gone, I did all of the washing up because our tiny kitchen looked like a crime scene and I wanted it sorted before the baby needed me.

After dinner, there were literally two bowls and two forks left. He initially agreed to wash them. When I reminded him, suddenly it was, “Why can’t you just do it? It’s only two bowls.”

Apparently all the washing up is “mine” anyway, despite a large chunk of it coming from feeding our children three meals a day, snacks, drinks and bottles. He then informed me that if I do 75% of the washing up, he does 275%.

For context, he does do a fair bit of washing up, especially on his days off. My frustration isn’t the bowls. It’s that I do the vast majority of the childcare, baby care, bottles, night wakes and household management, so asking for help with two bowls somehow turning into a courtroom defence felt a bit much.

By the end I’d been called a spoiled brat, we’d debated the existence of dog water that he lied about refilling, and somehow an empty can on the side became relevant evidence.

The two bowls were never the issue. The issue is that I feel like I live with a barrister who specialises in arguing over household chores.

Would this annoy you too, or am I seeing it wrong? Would this ongoing dynamic wear you down? This is constant. There’s something every single day at this point and it’s so fucking petty it’s draining the soul from me.

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