Co sleeping babies and nursery

Hi everyone. I’m worrying a little about my 9 month old who is due to start nursery in 2 months time. We have co slept since he was born and no matter how hard I have tried to transition him to his own room and crib over the last few months, he does not settle. We’ve tried everything other than the ferber method which I’m just not comfortable with if I’m completely honest.

I fear I have shot myself in the foot however as I’m worried how my LO will cope with sleep at nursery. Has anyone else been in this position before? And how did your babies cope with the transition?

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Babies usually sleep fine at nursery - they just observe other babies and do the same. It's what I heard anyway!

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My son was a nightmare sleeper and would only stay asleep at home having contact naps and with a boob in his mouth. If I moved he’d wake up instantly. He started nursery at 14 months and they got him to do a 2 hour cot nap on his first day 🙃 I was really happy but also like are you joking 😂 Honestly babies are normally completely different for other people x

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Babies know that different adults settle them differently and nursery workers seem to be magic! I wouldn’t stress about it :)

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Mine is a notorious contact napper at home but goes down a dream at nursery, they were shocked when I said he can never sleep independently at home 😅 so yeah don’t let it be a stress for you x

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My daughter was the same. Only contact napped with me but at nursery and with grandma she’d sleep on her own x

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I've only just stopped co sleeping with my 20 month old and he sleeps fine at nursery. He's been attending since 10 months. When we viewed I asked how they get babies down to sleep, they said however they need. They can rock/cuddle/sing/push in the pram whatever. The babies soon adapt and sleep well usually, mainly because there's lots going on at nursery and they get worn out! My son's now at a different nursery and he takes himself off to the sleep room and lies down on a mat and naps for 1-2 hours 😆 he would NEVER do this at home haha. I still have to cuddle to sleep for naps. And bed time I lie next to him in his bed until he falls asleep. If he wakes up in the night, we co sleep from that point on.

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I’m in this exact same boat!! I’ve heard babies sleep well at nursery but what about with relatives? My little one will be spending 1 day with my mum. Is it the same for that? My mum won’t want to contact nap.

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