Advice

I’m 4 months postpartum (not all that important to the story)

My baby sister just called bawling her eyes out and showed me a positive test. Her and the boy are both in college. He’s not good for her at all and they are stuck in a toxic cycle. I’ve been trying to get her to end it for months but she for some reason feels like he’s her only choice. He’s also her first love. He basically told her “find a way to get rid of it”.

I have no idea what I can do to help her make the decision for herself. I know her and I know she is a people pleaser. She really struggles with making her own decisions or even knowing what she wants a lot of the time.

We are long distance so that makes it harder but I want to be there for her.
My fiancé is about to leave for the police academy for 6 weeks so I really can’t up and leave my house and my animals right now or I’d be on my way down with my baby already.

in our community

Accidentally falling asleep

So one night I was holding my newborn in the bed with my arm over him gently. He was safely in between me and my husband and all three of us fell asleep. When I woke up none of us had moved an inch. I didn’t sleep for very long, but I felt relief that my husband didn’t move either.

When I was 10 my sister was born, at one point she managed to completely topple her crib to the ground and it broke, so my mom made me keep her in my bed until she got it fixed. I used to toss and turn in my sleep, but that first night with my little sister curled up next to me, I never moved in my sleep ever again.

So I was glad that neither me or my husband moved while our baby was there. And that was just one time thing. But I am a little worried. Almost every time I breastfeed him, I pass out cold still holding him. I sleep lightly while I’m near him, but does that wear off? How do y’all stay awake while breastfeeding?

Is it okay to fall asleep, knowing I won’t drop him? I don’t want to fall asleep too deeply.

partner struggling

my partner is struggling at the moment with the fact that my 4 week old only really settles for me and stays asleep when being held by me or next to me. his paternity leave was only for 2 weeks and he does things like nappy changes and bottle feeds but he finds it hard when baby starts fussing and won’t settle. his ears are also sensitive to the newborn screech crying which doesn’t help either. he wants to be able to give me a rest and a break for longer than 20 mins and he wants to have a connection to baby like me and i’ve explained to him that baby boy sees me as an extension of him and clinginess is normal at this stage, but is there any other good advice i could give him?

Advice on baby car seats

I need to get a new baby seat asap after someone went in to the back of my car earlier (luckily it was all low impact and everyone was okay.)
I was wondering what car seats everyone is usuing, im looking for a spinning base isofix to save my back as my little ones 1 years old now im looking for one that will last a while :) any advice welcome 🙏 🤗

When does it get easier

Baby is 10 weeks and although she is considered a good baby I still can't deal with the crying to get her to sleep at night and the constant battles of sleeping during the day. I'm getting at least 6 hours of broken sleep a night but I am broken 😅😅. I love the happy moments she is such fun but the bad moments are so bad they ruin the thought of the happy moments

Just need a rant

Feels like I'm living currently just to do everything to get her to sleep and my life revolves around figuring out how to get her to sleep next as no two times are the same

Am i pregnant??

I gave birth to my baby march 12 and still haven’t gotten my cycle i have been having spicy time with my bf but we’ve been using protection and im exclusively breastfeeding

Currently 41 weeks

No sign of baby girl coming out yet 🫣🥲 I have the option to get a membrane sweep tomorrow honestly girlys if you have had it done before don’t sugar coat it does it hurt 😭