Accidentally falling asleep

So one night I was holding my newborn in the bed with my arm over him gently. He was safely in between me and my husband and all three of us fell asleep. When I woke up none of us had moved an inch. I didn’t sleep for very long, but I felt relief that my husband didn’t move either.

When I was 10 my sister was born, at one point she managed to completely topple her crib to the ground and it broke, so my mom made me keep her in my bed until she got it fixed. I used to toss and turn in my sleep, but that first night with my little sister curled up next to me, I never moved in my sleep ever again.

So I was glad that neither me or my husband moved while our baby was there. And that was just one time thing. But I am a little worried. Almost every time I breastfeed him, I pass out cold still holding him. I sleep lightly while I’m near him, but does that wear off? How do y’all stay awake while breastfeeding?

Is it okay to fall asleep, knowing I won’t drop him? I don’t want to fall asleep too deeply.

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You are doing great mama ❤️
I used to put pillows around me so even if I fell asleep, she couldn’t roll over!

My recommendation would be set your bed/room up for cosleeping. It’s far safer to cosleep intentionally with safety measures in place than just try to force yourself to stay awake. Breastfeeding happens to be one of the “safe sleep seven” for cosleeping. Firm mattress, no big blankets up near baby, try side laying breastfeeding. You can find all this detailed info online. It will change your life guaranteed.

I had this exactly when my little one was a few weeks old and although I didn’t move and he was fine it scared me because I was so tired. We have coslept with a safe and appropriate set up ever since. For your peace of mind it is definitely worth having that set up ready and no doubt you’ll get a much more restful nights sleep. You’ve got this mama 🤍

It's totally fine to cosleep with a newborn. Yet it seems like you are more like an accidental cosleepers and this is mostly how accidents can happen. I recommend you to learn about safe cosleeping methods so you know how to do it without putting at risk your baby. You can find good resources on Happycosleepers on Instagram. Hope it helps

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