Is it bad that i love having a velcro baby😭

Dont get me wrong it's exhausting, I really really need a break before I go mental, but part of me loves like when we go places and people want to hold him but he just wants me. My first born has always been very independent, she was a perfect baby. My second though, everyone knows he's my velcro baby. He can't go more than 10 minutes in someone else's arms. 😂 it's just kind of nice to feel needed. I'm just enjoying it while it lasts cause I'm sure once he starts walking he'll need me less 🥲

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Hi momma. I'm in the same boat haha. My first born was independent too my second born is a Velcro baby for sure lol I totally understand where you're coming from. 🙂

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That’s not bad at all! Two things can always be true at once. You can be exhausted and overwhelmed but also be happy and soaking it all in. I hate when people act like it has to be one extreme or the other. The average good mama lives in a grey area just like the one you described. You two sound adorable!

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My partner and I have a 15 month old and 3 months pregnant with our second he opened a business around the time our son was born that requires a lot of his time and attention.

To cut a long story short, he rarely has our son alone, he only really spends time with him at night before he goes to bed/some time on the weekend, but I am expected to be fully responsible during those times. There are some weeks that he hasn’t even changed our son’s nappy once. If I ever have an appointment/social event I have to arrange childcare or plan around our son’s nursery hours.

He doesn’t do much in the house at all, but I’m fine with that as I don’t have set working hours due to helping with the business so I spend a lot of time at home.

The issue I have is that I am expected to care for the home, care for our son (who sleeps absolutely terribly), and help with the business daily. Whilst I have allowed him to focus solely on the business.

It feels like I am being stretched to do more, and he can be very hurtful with the way that he speaks to me. Sometimes I think I’d be better off doing it alone as honestly it feels that way sometimes now.

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