Typical toddler or resentment??

I had my second child 10 weeks ago, and these last 5-8 weeks my nearly 3 yo has just been so horrid to me. We’ve taken the divide and conquer approach to parenting 2 littles and it’s been working for us. But I feel like where I’m not able to care for my eldest like I used to is causing some feelings of resentment towards me.

For example, he had a great day out with his dad today (I didn’t go cos youngest had jabs) and he fell asleep on the way home. Once he woke, first thing he said to me was “go away” a few times. I was cool and just said “no”. Then later, my partner said to him to show me his new tops he got and he was about to when he then changed his mind and just kicked the bag at me. I just got up and cried. This isn’t an isolated incident, and for quite some time I was the fave parents. And I’m okay not being the fave but I don’t want to be spoken to like that or treated like that. It really upsets me! We had such a beautiful bond and now I feel he hates me 😔

Could also him just being a rat bag nearly 3 year old. I just don’t know how to discipline him right either. We use time out but don’t think it works and I don’t agree with time out methods. Maybe I’m overreacting, but it feels hurtful and I love him so much and missing hanging out with him and being able to play like I used to. The littlest just needs me so intensely atm 😔

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What have I done?

I have a 3 weeks old and I'm starting to really freak out. I love him and will do anything I need to make sure he's happy healthy and safe but I'm terrified I've made a mistake! I don't know how to be a mum. I dont like other peoples children. I dont want to loose my identity and I'm so scared of messing up because again I do love him. I'm not enjoying this and starting to feel like I've trapped myself in a prison. I just want to be happy and I want to enjoy my baby but I feel so scared and lost. Please tell me this is normal and it will pass?

Struggles with Partner

Hey, just looking for a bit of advice really as I don’t have many friends to talk to.

My partner and I have a 15 month old and 3 months pregnant with our second he opened a business around the time our son was born that requires a lot of his time and attention.

To cut a long story short, he rarely has our son alone, he only really spends time with him at night before he goes to bed/some time on the weekend, but I am expected to be fully responsible during those times. There are some weeks that he hasn’t even changed our son’s nappy once. If I ever have an appointment/social event I have to arrange childcare or plan around our son’s nursery hours.

He doesn’t do much in the house at all, but I’m fine with that as I don’t have set working hours due to helping with the business so I spend a lot of time at home.

The issue I have is that I am expected to care for the home, care for our son (who sleeps absolutely terribly), and help with the business daily. Whilst I have allowed him to focus solely on the business.

It feels like I am being stretched to do more, and he can be very hurtful with the way that he speaks to me. Sometimes I think I’d be better off doing it alone as honestly it feels that way sometimes now.

Just looking for some advice really or anyone who has been through something similar? 😞

Ice-cream for toddler

I was at the playground today and another mum was giving out ice-creams to the kids (Magnum style with chocolate and caramel). She asked if my son would like one and I explained that he's not really had things like that yet, but thanked her anyway. She seemed shocked and asked how old he is, when I said 20 months she was like "awww that's crazy"

It was really kind of her to offer him the ice-cream but it made me feel like she saw me as a cruel and mean mum when I didn't take it. My son does have things like muffins that I make, digestive biscuits, fruit yoghurts etc but I'm holding off on giving him really sugary treats for as long as possible as he doesn't know the difference yet.

What do you think?

I have a husband who is doing uber and don’t have time for us he won’t sleep at home and now have been saying he sleeps in the car, that don’t seem to be true. He sometimes come home to sleep and that’s afternoon or late in the morning…

Last two years or more we have no physical contact he won’t make the time. All he says is his paying for credit card interests which don’t seem to finish for 3 years now. He takes my toddler once a week to nursery and because his sleepy that becomes hard for him. Long story short I did find him cheating writing messages to someone aboard and god knows what else there is he has few phones with screen blackouts. His bank account statements don’t come home. Last week me and my daughter went to grandmas for 2 days and came home without telling him and I found a photo of a child 8 months in his purse photo section. I called him to the pub to speak he said it’s his uncles grandson (not an uncle a friend he says he does some work with him) I’ve never met this man. Apparently in turkey he and his uncle went to a health care office to get a health card for his grandson but because of parking problems the uncle couldn’t come out. Last one week I’ve been going crazy and I don’t believe him. It’s so shit that we can not find out if our husbands have any other child under his registration in uk or aboard. I am really sad and not sure in what to do now. I can only divorce

Helppp

I am SICK of family asking my 2 year old for a kiss or a hug. Shes suspected autistic so is only really affectionate towards my husband and I (and that is also very rare!)
I dont want people kissing my kids as it is but to try force her when she really doesnt like it!!
I have tried the "she isnt affectionate" but how else can I phrase it without offending anyone??
She really just loves her own company.

Should I explore this idea? 🤔

I’m a stay at home mum to a nearly 4 year old and I’ve noticed she learns best through hands on activities and she eats more and loves when we cook together. It’s inspired an idea I’d love honest feedback on.

✨Idea - A weekly country themed box for ages 3–5, with child friendly healthy recipes the whole family can eat, plus activities, crafts and learning through play. The aim is to take some of the mental load out of meal planning while creating fun family bonding moments whilsg introducing children to different cultures.

Would this be something that would interest you as a parent?