A mate told me I’m a bad mum for not being a SAHM
Out for dinner with girls, usually 5 of us been same way since collage, my son has just turned two and i admited I couldn’t hack being a stay at home mum, I work three days a week, have two days with my son which i love having I’m not saying I want to work more, then obv weekend but then my husband is around for help, and I simply said I don’t think I could hack 5 days at home with my son, and praises them for how that can do it, as this age is tough! And dinner table went a little silent, all other 4 girls are stay at home mums, one said “the greatest mums put their whole hart into their kids, we just trying to do our best… oh not saying your not but some struggle it’s okay” but the way she said id was defo a dig. now I married for love, some of them married for money and some half & half id say but being the only one that works and the last to have a baby I feel like bit of a outsider now, and that was just nail in coffin. Non have reached out to me since, one of the girls is my twin sister and she told me there has been a new group chat made for one the other girls 40th’s when she asked why I wasnt invited she replied “she’s prob working or tired from having her son so though just best us mummy girls” I told my sister all due respect but that’s fine with me, they are her kinda people not really mine anymore, they all set sighs to be SAHM since high school and good for them for reaching that goal, where I wanted a career. I said maybe it’s time I found my own kinda people… but that’s 15 years of friendships and weekly dinners down drain because I’m ambitious and find toddler stage harder than expected 🤣 anyone ever had to start again friends wise if there thirties?
Help relationship
My husband is what I call a “ work wife” they don’t follow eachother on social medias but he always brings her up they have bonded over fishing like aquariums etc, they talk about that at work, he told me they are trading..she is going to give him a tank that’s huge and in exchange he is going to give her this gravel or dirt that he has that he doesn’t need. I’ve never liked her bc her personality and how she is just hoe and skanky…is what I’ve heard and seen from her. They must talk alot at work, I never find anything on his phone, I don’t go through it tho. Or look. It just always has given off a weird vibe to me and idk. If I’m being dramatic or crazy. They never hangout outside of work or anything, he’s always like she did this and we talked about this today, and I hate it. And that she always says how cute our baby is and that she was going to give aquarium plants to him but never did, or she took a picture of him at work and said she was going to send it to me but never did? Like where’s the photo and why did you take it of my husband? Idk am I being insecure?
