Kissing baby!

Hey guys I’m really not sure how to approach this situation or if I’m being to crazy.

My son is 6 months old and I’m still not comfortable with anyone kissing him other than me and my husband. There has been instances where my parents have accidentally kissed him on the side of his head and I’ve reminded them please don’t kiss him. And my parents don’t like it but they respect it.

Well tonight my mother in law kissed my son on the back of his head as we were saying goodbye. I couldn’t tell if it was full lips on his head or like half lip check thing on his head like a side kiss . I didn’t say anything as it’s harder for me to set boundaries with my in laws and I wasn’t 100% sure if it was a full kiss or side kiss.

I talked to my husband about it to see if maybe he can talk to her about it and just tell her it’s ok accidents happen but please don’t kiss him. My husband thinks I’m being a germ freak about it and that it’s ok since it was just the back of his head. I honestly think he doesn’t want to message her about it at all.

I just still don’t feel comfortable with people kissing him. And maybe in the future as he’s older I would be ok with a side of a head kiss but I’m also hesitant because we have family members on his and my side who get cold sores so idk if I would ever fully feel ok with anyone kissing him.

So my question is do I just text his mom myself about since it looks like my husband is hesitant about it or are head kisses ok!? I’m just a little worried if I allow head kisses now that my boundaries will continue to get pushed.
( me and his mom have a good relationship now but in the past we haven’t seen eye to eye to I do have some trauma from that and it’s really hard for me to approach a situation)

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Ice-cream for toddler

I was at the playground today and another mum was giving out ice-creams to the kids (Magnum style with chocolate and caramel). She asked if my son would like one and I explained that he's not really had things like that yet, but thanked her anyway. She seemed shocked and asked how old he is, when I said 20 months she was like "awww that's crazy"

It was really kind of her to offer him the ice-cream but it made me feel like she saw me as a cruel and mean mum when I didn't take it. My son does have things like muffins that I make, digestive biscuits, fruit yoghurts etc but I'm holding off on giving him really sugary treats for as long as possible as he doesn't know the difference yet.

What do you think?

What do people do during the day or what kind of things do you do in your routine?

My baby is 8 weeks old...just looking for ideas

A mate told me I’m a bad mum for not being a SAHM

Out for dinner with girls, usually 5 of us been same way since collage, my son has just turned two and i admited I couldn’t hack being a stay at home mum, I work three days a week, have two days with my son which i love having I’m not saying I want to work more, then obv weekend but then my husband is around for help, and I simply said I don’t think I could hack 5 days at home with my son, and praises them for how that can do it, as this age is tough! And dinner table went a little silent, all other 4 girls are stay at home mums, one said “the greatest mums put their whole hart into their kids, we just trying to do our best… oh not saying your not but some struggle it’s okay” but the way she said id was defo a dig. now I married for love, some of them married for money and some half & half id say but being the only one that works and the last to have a baby I feel like bit of a outsider now, and that was just nail in coffin. Non have reached out to me since, one of the girls is my twin sister and she told me there has been a new group chat made for one the other girls 40th’s when she asked why I wasnt invited she replied “she’s prob working or tired from having her son so though just best us mummy girls” I told my sister all due respect but that’s fine with me, they are her kinda people not really mine anymore, they all set sighs to be SAHM since high school and good for them for reaching that goal, where I wanted a career. I said maybe it’s time I found my own kinda people… but that’s 15 years of friendships and weekly dinners down drain because I’m ambitious and find toddler stage harder than expected 🤣 anyone ever had to start again friends wise if there thirties?

Help relationship

My husband is what I call a “ work wife” they don’t follow eachother on social medias but he always brings her up they have bonded over fishing like aquariums etc, they talk about that at work, he told me they are trading..she is going to give him a tank that’s huge and in exchange he is going to give her this gravel or dirt that he has that he doesn’t need. I’ve never liked her bc her personality and how she is just hoe and skanky…is what I’ve heard and seen from her. They must talk alot at work, I never find anything on his phone, I don’t go through it tho. Or look. It just always has given off a weird vibe to me and idk. If I’m being dramatic or crazy. They never hangout outside of work or anything, he’s always like she did this and we talked about this today, and I hate it. And that she always says how cute our baby is and that she was going to give aquarium plants to him but never did, or she took a picture of him at work and said she was going to send it to me but never did? Like where’s the photo and why did you take it of my husband? Idk am I being insecure?

Are you bothered by the temperature of other people’s food?

I’ve always been a slow eater and for as long as I can remember people have incessantly commented things like ‘omg are you still eating that it must be cold by now!’ Then 5 mins later ‘that must be freezing!!!’ ‘Omg how can you eat that it must be FREEZING’, when the food is literally still warm anyways💀💀
Even from my parents ‘your food is on the table going COLDDDD’
And now as an adult, after not hearing it for ages because I’ve learned to stuff my food down me when around other people, I’m starting to hear it again! I’ll get my toddler a kids meal at soft play and naturally they’d would rather play so they’ll come back and forth for a bite occasionally and I’ll pick at some chips during the time we’re there. Now I get it from other adults every 5 minutes HOW CAN U EAT THOSE CHIPS THEY MUST BE FREEEEZING
Like they’re literally not but why do you care and what is wrong with room temperature food 🤣🤣 I couldn’t care less what temp my food is lmao why does it bother other people though??
& if it does bother you, pls comment WHY?

Daycare worries

So my baby (toddler, really) is 17 months old and started daycare about 3 weeks ago. It was a struggle at first because it was new to her, but as she settled in, she just sits at the little tables and watches the other kids play or run around (there’s still a few doing parallel play). We went up north to visit family for a week, so now it’s like she’s starting daycare all over. But I’m worried about her not socializing with the other kids. She has an older brother, but he’s 6, so this is her first time experiencing anything with other kids her age. I read online that it can take a month for babies/toddlers to adjust to daycare and that what she’s doing is normal, but I’m still worried. It doesn’t help that she’s teething really bad so she’s fussier than normal. Is her behavior normal? Will it just take time to adjust to the other kids before she starts playing with them? I’m just worried and don’t know if there’s anything I can do to help her.

I should add that her daycare has cameras, so we can check on her throughout the day.