Healing from a trauma bond while expecting 💔🤰

I’m 27 weeks pregnant and dealing with the aftermath of a trauma-bonded relationship ending. He moved on while we were still together, I was 14 weeks pregnant. The baby was planned, we tried for just over a year. My brain is torturing me comparing myself to his new partner, even though I know he wasn't good for me. I just want him back, it hurts so much. I just can’t seem to switch my mind off and I’m so fed up. I really want to focus on my baby, but the withdrawal feels impossible today. Has anyone else managed to heal from a toxic ex while pregnant? I’d love to connect with anyone who understands & can give me any hope.

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When do the neck snuggles go away? 🥹😫

My favorite, favorite thing is when he snuggles his face into my neck while co-napping. I need to know how much longer I have to cherish them!

Do you wake up your baby to breastfeed at night?

My baby is 6 weeks, I tried to wake him up a couple times but he was so deep asleep I couldn’t wake him up properly, he was sucking for less then 5 minutes and then fell asleep again.
Another time I woke him up and after feeding he was fully awake for almost 2 hours and since then he wakes me up when he’s hungry.
What is your experience with night time feeding sessions ?

2AM and your baby is crying.

All needs have been met. He’s 2 weeks old.
Do you pick him up and hold him til he sleeps or let him cry as to “regulate himself.” Dad seems to think he has to cry it out at 2AM verses him being picked up.

Hair

Does anyone else’s baby have to have your hair in their face for them to go to sleep ? Because my little girl has to have my hair in her face and hand for her to sleep but she’ll spit her dummy out and try to eat it and if i don’t let her all hell breaks loose 😂 is there a way to substitute this or has anyone else experienced this she’s 7 months

Front sleeping

Hey all 👋 might be a little bit of a silly question but here goes!
My 7 month old has started sleeping on his front (which is fine, ofc) he actively unrolls and rolls and crawls. My issue is that he is so active in the day that when bedtime comes around he’s comatose, he then slowly rolls onto his front but sometimes he is literally face down. He does move himself in the night and isn’t face down the entire time, I think he just doesn’t move when he’s in a mega deep sleep.
Is anyone else experiencing this? I don’t want him to suffocate 😅

Breastfeeding

Does anyone else hate breastfeeding? I EBF for a week during hospital but then had to express, feed and top up with formula for a while due to issues with my baby not feeding from me for well over 10 days plus he was losing weight.

Originally I didn’t mind it at all and was so proud I was able to do it. Since he has started feeding from me again I go through phases of being so overstimulated and overwhelmed by him feeding and psychically cannot stand the feeling of him feeding - even when he has a good latch I want to take him off

I also find it so boring which probably doesn’t help but I feel awful for feeling this way. I can hack like 10 minutes before I want to take him off because the feeling is just too much

Anyone else? Did you just power through or did you give up? I really really don’t want to give up but I’m so scared I’ll just sack of off because of how I feel