Dad rant !!

So listen, my husband is great but at the moment he's irritating the life out of me.

We have 2 kids under 2.

I am doing every night feed as well as morning feeds & nappies for both kids whilst he goes for a 95 hour shit. And he is now sat fully falling asleep whilst I do 60909 things at once. I'm intrigued to know why hes so tired when he's had a full 8 hours sleep & I've had about 4 broken. He has adhd so he needs to be told what to do ie jobs in the house so i'm constantly having to ask for things to be done. He will do them with no hesitation but I just wish he'd think for himself instead of needing a list.

I feel like he gets to just mooch around the house/garden & do what he wants whilst I have to say "watch the kids so i can xyz"

I told him to watch the kids whilst I sorted the bottles & he just sat on his phone and didn't think to play with the toddler. Shes chill & fine playing alone but why would you not want to?!

I'm doneeee in and I'm fully starting to resent him. Am I being an absolute arsehole?

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Kissing baby!

Hey guys I’m really not sure how to approach this situation or if I’m being to crazy.

My son is 6 months old and I’m still not comfortable with anyone kissing him other than me and my husband. There has been instances where my parents have accidentally kissed him on the side of his head and I’ve reminded them please don’t kiss him. And my parents don’t like it but they respect it.

Well tonight my mother in law kissed my son on the back of his head as we were saying goodbye. I couldn’t tell if it was full lips on his head or like half lip check thing on his head like a side kiss . I didn’t say anything as it’s harder for me to set boundaries with my in laws and I wasn’t 100% sure if it was a full kiss or side kiss.

I talked to my husband about it to see if maybe he can talk to her about it and just tell her it’s ok accidents happen but please don’t kiss him. My husband thinks I’m being a germ freak about it and that it’s ok since it was just the back of his head. I honestly think he doesn’t want to message her about it at all.

I just still don’t feel comfortable with people kissing him. And maybe in the future as he’s older I would be ok with a side of a head kiss but I’m also hesitant because we have family members on his and my side who get cold sores so idk if I would ever fully feel ok with anyone kissing him.

So my question is do I just text his mom myself about since it looks like my husband is hesitant about it or are head kisses ok!? I’m just a little worried if I allow head kisses now that my boundaries will continue to get pushed.
( me and his mom have a good relationship now but in the past we haven’t seen eye to eye to I do have some trauma from that and it’s really hard for me to approach a situation)

Am I doing the right thing

My baby had 4 nursery settle sessions. On all but the 4th he was unable to be put down and was only happy to be held. On every drop off he is distressed. I’m not talking a few tears and sobs, as soon as he realises what’s going on he panics clings onto me so tight and pulls himself in closer as if to hide from the staff. Then he is going in screaming and hysterically crying. He is eventually settling once in and has been able to play with some toys which is great. On his first day the nursery asked me to collect him early as he was unsettled. I knew that actually he was due a nap especially as his 1st had been 30mins but the nursery were ignoring his sleepy signs, tried keeping him going till he ended up falling asleep on someone who woke him after 10mins trying to move. Then despite knowing when he has a bottle and me asking not to feed him they gave him a bottle 2hrs early. He was so distressed when I picked him up and it took ages at home to calm him down. It just doesn’t sit right with me how distressed nursery is making him feel. Another 2 issues I’ve thought of is that they remove comforter’s during sleep which will always wake my son up, he is the only non mobile baby in the room and isn’t able to do as much. Yesterday they’d all gone into the garden and he hadn’t. I’ve emailed expressing my concerns but I feel the tone I had in their reply was a bit shirty. I really don’t know what to do😔😭

How would you (like to) respond if you heard your partner swearing angrily at your kids?

You're with a newborn in another part of the house. He's clearly stressed and you're not in a position to take the load off....

Childcare Funding

Hey everyone, I’m a bit confused about the free childcare funding and was hoping someone could help.

At the moment, I get the 15 hours funded childcare. I’ve seen online and heard from a friend that it’s now increased to 30 hours, so I wanted to apply. However, when I log into my childcare account, I can only see the option to renew as normal every 3 months and can’t find anywhere to apply for the 30 hours.

Am I supposed to request the extra hours through GOV.UK, or is it something the nursery arranges? Just wondering if I’m missing something. Thanks! 😊

I don’t feel like doing anything for my husband for Father’s Day

I don’t feel like doing anything for my husband this Father’s Day. I always surprise him for his birthday and father’s day but when it comes to me I get nothing for my birthday two months ago I don’t even think this man said happy birthday to me. At the end of that night I felt like crying. I’ve talked to him about that so many times he always comes up with the same excuse you never like what I get you. Last Mother’s Day he got me a big lemonade thing that same Mother’s Day morning he went to the store to get diapers and got it I couldn’t even store it in the cabinet I smiled and said thank you but I guess I wasn’t enthusiastic enough for him. For his birthday I bought him multiple gifts got balloons and decorated our room surprised him when he got home from work but I never get anything. We’ve been together for 6 years married 2 years. We have two little kids. Am I an asshole?.

My husband bought me flowers and 2 cards and hand written in one of them to tell me how much he appreciated me for everything I do

So my husband is now saying sorry I bought you flower and cards I guess it wasn’t the right time to do that. Which I don’t even know what that means. He is so unpredictable all the time and I just never know what’s going on anymore. I asked him why and he doesn’t give a good answer so now I’m wondering is it something I did or didn’t do? I don’t know I’m so confused.