Am I doing the right thing

My baby had 4 nursery settle sessions. On all but the 4th he was unable to be put down and was only happy to be held. On every drop off he is distressed. I’m not talking a few tears and sobs, as soon as he realises what’s going on he panics clings onto me so tight and pulls himself in closer as if to hide from the staff. Then he is going in screaming and hysterically crying. He is eventually settling once in and has been able to play with some toys which is great. On his first day the nursery asked me to collect him early as he was unsettled. I knew that actually he was due a nap especially as his 1st had been 30mins but the nursery were ignoring his sleepy signs, tried keeping him going till he ended up falling asleep on someone who woke him after 10mins trying to move. Then despite knowing when he has a bottle and me asking not to feed him they gave him a bottle 2hrs early. He was so distressed when I picked him up and it took ages at home to calm him down. It just doesn’t sit right with me how distressed nursery is making him feel. Another 2 issues I’ve thought of is that they remove comforter’s during sleep which will always wake my son up, he is the only non mobile baby in the room and isn’t able to do as much. Yesterday they’d all gone into the garden and he hadn’t. I’ve emailed expressing my concerns but I feel the tone I had in their reply was a bit shirty. I really don’t know what to do😔😭

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Kissing baby!

Hey guys I’m really not sure how to approach this situation or if I’m being to crazy.

My son is 6 months old and I’m still not comfortable with anyone kissing him other than me and my husband. There has been instances where my parents have accidentally kissed him on the side of his head and I’ve reminded them please don’t kiss him. And my parents don’t like it but they respect it.

Well tonight my mother in law kissed my son on the back of his head as we were saying goodbye. I couldn’t tell if it was full lips on his head or like half lip check thing on his head like a side kiss . I didn’t say anything as it’s harder for me to set boundaries with my in laws and I wasn’t 100% sure if it was a full kiss or side kiss.

I talked to my husband about it to see if maybe he can talk to her about it and just tell her it’s ok accidents happen but please don’t kiss him. My husband thinks I’m being a germ freak about it and that it’s ok since it was just the back of his head. I honestly think he doesn’t want to message her about it at all.

I just still don’t feel comfortable with people kissing him. And maybe in the future as he’s older I would be ok with a side of a head kiss but I’m also hesitant because we have family members on his and my side who get cold sores so idk if I would ever fully feel ok with anyone kissing him.

So my question is do I just text his mom myself about since it looks like my husband is hesitant about it or are head kisses ok!? I’m just a little worried if I allow head kisses now that my boundaries will continue to get pushed.
( me and his mom have a good relationship now but in the past we haven’t seen eye to eye to I do have some trauma from that and it’s really hard for me to approach a situation)

Help relationship

My husband is what I call a “ work wife” they don’t follow eachother on social medias but he always brings her up they have bonded over fishing like aquariums etc, they talk about that at work, he told me they are trading..she is going to give him a tank that’s huge and in exchange he is going to give her this gravel or dirt that he has that he doesn’t need. I’ve never liked her bc her personality and how she is just hoe and skanky…is what I’ve heard and seen from her. They must talk alot at work, I never find anything on his phone, I don’t go through it tho. Or look. It just always has given off a weird vibe to me and idk. If I’m being dramatic or crazy. They never hangout outside of work or anything, he’s always like she did this and we talked about this today, and I hate it. And that she always says how cute our baby is and that she was going to give aquarium plants to him but never did, or she took a picture of him at work and said she was going to send it to me but never did? Like where’s the photo and why did you take it of my husband? Idk am I being insecure?

Nervous system goes crazy every time newborn cries

I’m a FTM and just had my son on 6/3. Before him I literally have had zero experience with babies. I was the youngest in my family so I never even baby sat or really had a ton of interaction with kids ESPECIALLY not with newborns. Needless to say this is all completely foreign territory for me. Although, I had 9 months to mentally prepare for this ( as well as 9 years with my husband to discuss and decide that we def wanted a child lol) I am trying to address his every need immediately so he doesn’t cry or scream, it breaks my heart to hear him upset and makes me feel awful. I am dropping everything and running to him as soon as I hear any squeak of what I’m interpreting as discomfort. I feel like I’ve come a long way in two weeks though, the first night was TOUGH for the three of us. Things are getting a bit easier and we are learning his cues pretty quickly. I’m on maternity leave for 6 months & my husband owns his own plumbing company and had to go back to work pretty soon after his birth so I’m alone with my son all day and pretty much all night. Does anyone else feel this way when their baby cries? Will this feeling ever relax within me? Any advice on what I could do to calm myself and him when he’s upset would be wonderful! I’m a total newbie here 🫣

Goodies oat bars

Hi I bought these today because they was reduced can my nearly 8 month old have them? (We’re doing blw)

Work anxiety

So i got this little part time job like 4 days a week right in my town and im honestly nervous when i leave the house my husbands gonna invite girls over and cheat with my kids in the house.

What do you think i should do?
I wanna work but im scared like crippling anxiety. Hes never cheated before but ive also never worked before weve only been together 2 years and married 1 year

I don’t feel like doing anything for my husband for Father’s Day

I don’t feel like doing anything for my husband this Father’s Day. I always surprise him for his birthday and father’s day but when it comes to me I get nothing for my birthday two months ago I don’t even think this man said happy birthday to me. At the end of that night I felt like crying. I’ve talked to him about that so many times he always comes up with the same excuse you never like what I get you. Last Mother’s Day he got me a big lemonade thing that same Mother’s Day morning he went to the store to get diapers and got it I couldn’t even store it in the cabinet I smiled and said thank you but I guess I wasn’t enthusiastic enough for him. For his birthday I bought him multiple gifts got balloons and decorated our room surprised him when he got home from work but I never get anything. We’ve been together for 6 years married 2 years. We have two little kids. Am I an asshole?.