How to parent by natural consequences

The current situation: 4 year older brother has been out of pocket all day, making destructive and mean choices all day, not listening to me and throwing tantrums. Had my last straw when he traps and squishes my 1 year old under a blanket as I was washing the tub clean of cat hair since he pulled the cat in the tub with him when I was changing a diaper. I put him to bed asap and told him I’m closing his door and he freaks out and has a long screaming fit.

This happens like every hour every day, where I walk away from close supervising and all hell breaks loose because of my oldest. I promise I’m doing what I can for his needs, come read my other posts on my profile lol. This is a poll for natural consequence parenting. Cause it makes sense to remove him from whatever situation or remove whatever object he’s misusing. But some situations I just can’t? And the going to bed consequence isn’t enough, I shut his door cause I know he likes it open and my angle here is “you don’t listen to me so I’m not listening to you”. I told him that but he talked over me and kept screaming. I obv feel like the worst parent but I’m just at rock bottom. Didn’t stop screaming til his dad came in to tell him what for and then he was fine with the door closed. He’s sleeping now. We’ve had a fun day playing with friends and good food and visiting nanas and going on scooter rides and watching some of emperors new groove. I just don’t know what I’m missing and I feel so done.

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Roles in the home.

I’m due with our second child in a few weeks and we’re re-having the discussion on roles and who does what. Husband is convinced because I’m a sahm and he works that he is not obligated to do anything at home and I mean anything. He will refuse to help with newborn in anyway just as he did with our first. As well as chores around the house and anything you can think of. He truly believes he shouldn’t have to do a single thing in our home. What are your guys thoughts?

Best potty training product recomendations?

We want to do a mini potty in the playroom, a potty seat for the big toilet, and a stool to get to the potty in a VERY small bathroom for our 16 month old. Looking for stable, easy to clean, and a good splash guard.

Also, bonus question, sticker chart or mini M&M's?

It’s not right that Mothers are mothers 24/7 & get ridiculed on not doing enough while men get to be a parent 3 hours a day or less & no one says anything.

Women and mothers are the caregiver, the chef, laundry attendant, house cleaner, always on mental alert, making appointments and plans, driving the kids where they need to go, buying food wipes diapers clothes shoes, the leader of the pack….i just feel we don’t get enough credit from the fathers. But the moment the mom needs a break or a breather, a shower, or mental silence , it’s an issue with them. We’re the crazy ones. I’m so done with men and wish I never gave my body to them

Meals per day?

How many meals and what kind of meals is having your little one?
So far we have 1 meal per day, some vegetables, meat, egg, some fruit...im not sure should I start to have twice per day? ...oh what a mess 😁

Am I too clingy or is my husband the problem

I’ve been married to my husband for almost 7 years, we’ve had some rough times with the loss of a baby after birth a couple of years ago and currently have a 2 year old. I can tell he definitely loves our son however he spends too much time on his phone and sometimes I feel he ignores him too. Whenever he gets home after work he will be on his phone and turn the TV on which I really don’t like. He never says I love you or gives compliments unless I say it first.. rarely he might hug me or kiss me without prompted but I’ve noticed most of the times he does it he wants sex. He says he believes he is in the spectrum, doesn’t see my eyes or face when I speak to him, I’ve told him about this bothering me multiple times and I just feel nothing changes. We’ve had multiple discussions, the last one was about how O wish he at least said if he liked something when I cook (we both work and usually I would cook and he does the dishes and helps with cleaning the house) I asked him to say if he likes something to which he said that I wouldn’t like him being honest with me because I would get mad at him telling me he doesn’t like my food. That really hurt my feelings because I considere my food tastes ok and have had multiple other people told me they liked it, the point is even when I asked him to say something positive he found a way to turn it into a negative. He then said he didn’t mean it, I just don’t understand, how can someone who says that loves you can’t find small ways to show you they love you without having to ask all the time.

How many meals are you all giving your baby?

My LO is nearly 8 months and to be honest I only started introducing a second meal recently. But when do we really have to start giving 3 meals a day? I’m stressed about all the meal prep so just need to brace myself for when the time comes!