First night in own room

Tonight is the first night my baby girl is going to bed in her own room and I feel so anxious.

This is my second baby so I know the drill, but I feel lost without her. We have been putting her down for naps during the day in her cot and she does really well so I'm hoping tonight she does well too.

Anything I can do to stop feeling anxious? I'm going to be watching the monitor like a hawk. 😂

I know it's a few weeks early (born 2nd Jan) but my partner is really struggling on the sofa so he wants to come back to bed but as he struggles with hayfever and asthma he makes a lot of noises during the night so I don't want her to get woken up.

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First little ponytails

I had to.... they wasn't too tight and litrally in for like 2 minutes. But I cant wait to be able to this properly with her when shes older.

Nap time

Where are you all putting your little ones to sleep? Baby is 4 months old and currently naps in his Moses basket in the living room with the TV on and me coming in and out etc. should I be putting him in his crib? I read somewhere that daytime naps should be light and noisy (to an extent) so they can differentiate, but thinking I should try him upstairs in our bedroom?

Head smacking

My 13 month old has started smacking himself on the head. It’s usually when he’s frustrated but he’s never done it before. Anyone else’s doing this and any possible idea why?!

Tongue tie

My baby is 4.5 weeks today, we had his tongue tie cut yesterday and I find it so frustrating the way they do things with the nhs. I asked about aftercare and they just brushed it off and said you do nothing, and very much underplayed it. My baby has been crying on and off all night and day and is so unsettled. Thankfully I’ve found some info online but then some of that seems conflicting I.e lots of info on exercises and sweeping to stop it from reattaching. They said this is not necessary. They could at least give you a heads up they are going to be in pain with it and info on the healing process, I.e what to expect as the wound heals so you know what to look out for. I left under the impression he would be unaffected.

Does it get easier?

My husband is high functioning Asperger’s and everytime our LO cries, he gets overwhelmed and can never attend to her - meaning I have to rush and come back home or run to her.

He shuts down and stares rather than call my help to stop it getting to this point.

I appreciate he thinks he’s giving me a break but makes it worse as I now have to regulate them both 🫠

Any tips as I just want to enjoy 5 mins to myself without having to always jump in because the times I show him my tricks - he’d rather play video games or be on his phone!

He is also having difficulty bonding due to postpartum depression

He keeps saying when she’s older it’ll help him as “what does she have to cry about, you do everything for her”😳 he forgets she’s a baby at times and natural to cry (trauma from his parents)

Sleep advice please!

My baby is 11 weeks old and since about week 5/6 we have been swaddling her because her arms and hands disturb her sleep so much. I’m sure part of it is startle reflex but I think mostly it’s that she seems to find comfort in sucking her hands which knocks her dummy out and generally wakes herself up by rubbing her face/mouth. She’s so busy with her arms that she breaks out of the swaddle often (we either use a muslin cloth or the momcozy swaddle wrap)

Will she grow out of this herself or does she need to get used to it? I was thinking maybe we don’t swaddle her for a few nights even though she’ll wake up more to see if it helps get her used to it and then hopefully we can ditch the swaddle before she starts rolling?

Any advice really appreciated!!