Fathers days and loss advice

So we are currently renovating our house and a lot of things are being chucked! My husband has just thrown the last present my dad ever gave me in the tip! Unbeknownst to me.

It wasn’t anything sentimental, it was just a large pretty glass vase that holds little house plants in. We always forget to water them and it can actually turn into a bit of “clutter” but once it’s tidied back up with some fresh plants it can look rather nice.

But because we’re being ruthless and a lot of things are being chucked, he thought he’d get rid of it.

“One less thing sitting gathering dust and getting unloved” he said.

Anyway I only lost my day a year ago and I just burst out crying. He did say sorry. It’s his Father’s Day too but I’m struggling to let it drop. I think I’m just sensitive right now.

But I can’t believe he did that.

Any words of wisdom?

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I'm so sorry that happened. I lost my mum a few years ago and had the same sort of situation with my dad throwing things out without considering.
I think it's totally normal for you to be extra sensitive today, so maybe wait it out and see how you feel in a couple of days and then consider how to approach it with your husband.
When you write it down "he threw away the last present my dad ever gave me" it sounds heartless but it won't have been what he was thinking! Sounds like he was just trying to be helpful and hadn't considered the sentimental value.

Be kind to yourself today x

That was very thoughtless of him. Even if it was gathering dust, it's still had meaning. I would be pissed off. Sorry girl. Sending you lots of love 💕

I'm sorry about this. I feel a lot of men can be less sentimental about items like we are. Or completely forgot any memories that may be attached to things

Doesn't sound like he did it maliciously. But perhaps ask him if he could find an identical one to replace it as it was sentimental

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