We were driving back from my grandparents today on the motorway. My partner was driving, me in front passenger seat, toddler (2yo) and baby (8 weeks) in the back.
We came across some traffic, it was stop/start. We sped up again to 40mph then it slowed down again. The car in front had come to a complete stop and my partner didn't brake. We were so close to hitting them. I shouted 'woah woah woah' and put my hand up. It was just a reaction I didn't think about what I was saying it just came out.
My partner did an emergency stop and then shouted at me for panicking him. We had an argument and he said if I keep 'acting like that' he will drop me off at the train station and leave me there. He said I was panicking him unnecessarily.
I said I didn't feel it was unnecessary, I felt like he didn't brake soon enough and tbh I didnt think he realised the car in front had stopped. I believe 100% if I hadn't said anything he would've gone straight in the back of the car.
Idk how I'm supposed to feel but I feel really upset and hurt for doing what I think was right to keep our babies safe.
Is my partner right? Should I have kept quiet?
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Personally, I would say something too. You just want to make sure you are all safe

If the person in front of you breaks, you break too! You’re not wrong. You’re trying to not get in an accident

honestly it sounds like he either lashed out because he didnt realize the car in front was stopping & he was embarrassed or he was having a bit of a road rage moment and took it out on you. either way, hes overreacting. also highly inappropriate to threaten to put your wife & mother of your children out by herself to get home. if hes going to throw a fit maybe he should be the one to take the train home so he can collect himself and act like the grown man he is

I feel this I hate when people break later than I would it makes me panic and iv done this before and shouted out then theyve had a go at me for scaring them
But if they drove properly in the first place this wouldn't happen.
Don't feel bad at all, men cut it to fine and get to close to cars , dunno wether it was a accent or he thought he had more time to break .