Is breastfeeding supposed to hurt this bad 😭?

I’m 4 weeks postpartum and I just got my baby to latch earlier this week (she has a lip tie that made latching hard the first few weeks). But everytime she latches it hurts my nipples so bad whenever I breastfeed, is this normal?? Is this something that will pass as I do it more? If so how long will it take until it doesn’t hurt anymore? The pain is lowkey unbearable 😭

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Breastfeeding should not hurt! If it does, something is wrong. Best would be to contact a lactation specialist in order to help find the cause and maybe find the best latching position

I haven’t breastfed yet, but I’m planning to when baby comes in a couple of months.

At the NHS class I went to they said it should not hurt & they mentioned that they can come out and do a home visit to assess baby’s latch etc and help with tips if struggling. Definitely something I will be looking to lean on if I struggle when the time comes.

They also have a breastfeeding drop in session at my local library once a week (again ran by NHS). I would see if your NHS trust has something similar

It hurt me for around the first 12 weeks or so but he had a poor latch and late diagnoses tongue tie.
Only had one so not sure if that is normal or not. He would leave blisters and kept getting clogged ducts.
It no longer hurts now (11 months)
Unless he bites 😂

I would go along to a best start group or reach out to your health visitor to see if there’s someone from the infant feeding team who can help.

It shouldn’t be hurting though.
Is it every feed or are some feeds okay?
I found when he latched more deeply it hurt less.
Is it a deep aching pain? A sharp pain?
It does get easier though! Breastfeeding can be so tough initially xx

For me it hurt for the first week and I think that was both of us getting used to the latch and also the midwife said the nipples toughen up a bit after the first week x

my baby also has a tongue tie! she’s also 4 weeks and she’s been having trouble latching but at first it hurt so badly to the point i was thinking about going strictly pumping but as time went on it got better and better. it’s definitely a learning process for both mama and baby ❤️ but my suggestion is definitely stock up on nipple butter and getting like ice packs and put them in the fridge versus the freezer, this is what helped me so hopefully it may help you. but i promise things will get better! ❤️ but also i will sometimes use bottles to help baby learn to latch and fixing her latch on the bottle and it helped teach her how to do it

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