Baby in bedroom during intimate time

Hello, I really don't want this to be controversial. I understand that we can never know what goes on in a little humans brain or what they will remember.

That being said, I have a 16 month old. And we are trying for another baby. We live with my elderly mom but our bedrooms are on the opposite side of the house. To avoid her hearing us or knowing what's going on we shut the door. My baby has separation anxiety so she would cry the whole time if we locked her out or put her in her playpen. Telling my mom or asking her to watch my baby would be more awkward for us than having her in the room, and we cant exactly afford a hotel or a sitter so she is in there with us. We play a baby video for her and give her lots of toys to play with and she does. She ignores us. I wish I had a better solution.

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For people saying you’re damaging her… that’s so silly. You are not damaging your child she’s only 16 months old. You’re not putting a 6 year old in the room and giving them something to play with. It’s only natural you wanting to be intimate with your partner. I understand how hard it must be especially when you want to build your family and get no break time. I wish you the best with your next baby❤️

I personally couldn’t have sex with a baby of any of age in the room but especially a toddler as old as 16 months and especially whilst awake x

My husband refuses to have sex with the baby (I should say toddler because he is 18 months) in the room. It's too awkward for him and too awkward for me. We have asked Mom to watch the baby before but she scoffed but took the baby so we could have some alone time. But the times have been few and far between because of no privacy right now. When we move we will have the privacy but will probably only do something when the kid is asleep. 🤷🏻‍♀️ We will be trying for another baby too but I find if we keep the fun in it and not stress over whether the deed worked or not...also find the time relaxing it is more effective in the desired result! 😅

I don’t understand why you wouldn’t do it while your toddler is asleep?

I can understand when people do it with young babies asleep in the room, but an awake 16mo is really weird to me. If I was a man I absolutely wouldn’t be able to get it up with a child playing in the corner

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I’m I wrong

So my mom just passed away from cancer last Tuesday, it was a horrible good bye. My husband has been very supportive, financially and being at home keeping the family together. I can tell it is getting to him, yesterday we had a small celebration with the kids , today is Father’s Day I feel bad but I really don’t feel like celebrating anything, I do want to go to church and out to eat with him to celebrate but he is upset that I didn’t plan anything else. I’m I wrong ?! I just feel so depressed and have no energy for anything.

What do I do

My and my partner recently found out I’m pregnant after we’ve been trying for 2 years but I’m being put in a difficult position as my family don’t seem to think my partner is good enough for me. They pick faults with him and constantly point out he isn’t working atm. He has been working on and off during our relationship but he became my carer as I have a brain disorder but he never asks me for money or spends his money on himself but my family thinks he should give all his money to me. I have spoken to my partner about this and he is actively looking for jobs and just wants to prove them wrong but it really upsets me and Iv spoken to them about this but it always seems to come back around. What do I do?

I gave him Father’s Day and instead of enjoying the day with his kids, he spent it sending angry messages to me

Yes this is a venting post. Today was supposed to be my day with our kids. But because it was Father’s Day, I told their father to spend the day with them. Instead of a thank you or just simply enjoying the day with them, he gets mad at our 3 month old for being too “difficult” for him and “causing” him to cancel the fishing trip he had planned for our eldest (7). Then proceeded to send angry text messages to me about canceling said fishing trip. He then demanded a do over tomorrow. Fine whatever. And I told him that’s fine because that is your actual assigned day. But you still have to take the baby because that’s part of the parenting agreement. Which made him even more angry. He then said he’s getting his girlfriend to babysit. I told him if he trust her that much with our baby then OK. And apparently that made him more mad because now he’s saying, I am a neglectful mother for allowing his girlfriend to babysit. The whole conversation resulted in him canceling tomorrow completely. Am I wrong for making him take the baby when it is his day to have both kids? When I have the kids, it’s up to me to have childcare sorted out. Why should this be any different?

Am I the problem

My husband has been in bed all day. He is acting like he can’t moves. This is his third day off so it’s not like he hasn’t had time to rest. He slept all day Friday most of the day yesterday and then just won’t get out of bed today. He just wants to sit on his phone. I get he works nights and is tired I also get that it is Father’s Day. But like you want to ignore your child all Father’s Day?!? She’s just a year and a half he complains that he never gets to spend time with us because he’s at work all the time so then why shut us out? It’s weird

Egg strike ?

Okay, so I am in trouble lol
Eggs are such a staple here, it was such an important breakfast item (omelettes, quiche, scrambled, frittata, etc) and even when you need a quick fix for dinner. My daughter used to love eggs and would not have enough.

A couple days ago, she just showed me that she doesn’t want to have anything to do with eggs, like it’s illegal now 😭😩🤣 (she is 15mo turning 16 soon)

Helppppp, what am I supposed to cook for breakfast now ? Any ideas ?

Also, did this happen to your baby too? Did it pass ?