I gave him Father’s Day and instead of enjoying the day with his kids, he spent it sending angry messages to me

Yes this is a venting post. Today was supposed to be my day with our kids. But because it was Father’s Day, I told their father to spend the day with them. Instead of a thank you or just simply enjoying the day with them, he gets mad at our 3 month old for being too “difficult” for him and “causing” him to cancel the fishing trip he had planned for our eldest (7). Then proceeded to send angry text messages to me about canceling said fishing trip. He then demanded a do over tomorrow. Fine whatever. And I told him that’s fine because that is your actual assigned day. But you still have to take the baby because that’s part of the parenting agreement. Which made him even more angry. He then said he’s getting his girlfriend to babysit. I told him if he trust her that much with our baby then OK. And apparently that made him more mad because now he’s saying, I am a neglectful mother for allowing his girlfriend to babysit. The whole conversation resulted in him canceling tomorrow completely. Am I wrong for making him take the baby when it is his day to have both kids? When I have the kids, it’s up to me to have childcare sorted out. Why should this be any different?

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Is this a c^nt move or am I “overreacting”

So I’m 20 weeks pregnant and got most stuff for baby bean and me and my partner have celebrated mothers day and Father’s Day and I got him a present that he’s wanted for years and it was only like £20 and he got me some stuff for Mother’s Day. All my family told him to get stuff for me and said to me I can’t get anything for him when he spent over £100 on me for Mother’s Day. And I told my sister that I got him something and she started screaming at me saying spend all my money on baby when I’ve skipped out on everything like gender reveals because she didn’t want to go and didn’t want to book a day off 2 MONTHS in advance (so did my mum) and I mean all I need to get baby now because I’m not finding out the gender until birth is the pram set and I shouted back that I have everything I need for MY baby because my side of the family have made the baby into a group project and is actively trying to cut me and my partner out of stuff for our baby even though we made it and I am growing them. Sorry for the rant but I need to know if I should just cut them out of mine and my baby’s life. They also told my family nurse we aren’t capable of living alone and that I will get postpartum depression.

Is my partner being unreasonable?

We were driving back from my grandparents today on the motorway. My partner was driving, me in front passenger seat, toddler (2yo) and baby (8 weeks) in the back.

We came across some traffic, it was stop/start. We sped up again to 40mph then it slowed down again. The car in front had come to a complete stop and my partner didn't brake. We were so close to hitting them. I shouted 'woah woah woah' and put my hand up. It was just a reaction I didn't think about what I was saying it just came out.

My partner did an emergency stop and then shouted at me for panicking him. We had an argument and he said if I keep 'acting like that' he will drop me off at the train station and leave me there. He said I was panicking him unnecessarily.

I said I didn't feel it was unnecessary, I felt like he didn't brake soon enough and tbh I didnt think he realised the car in front had stopped. I believe 100% if I hadn't said anything he would've gone straight in the back of the car.

Idk how I'm supposed to feel but I feel really upset and hurt for doing what I think was right to keep our babies safe.

Is my partner right? Should I have kept quiet?

What’s your thoughts about this kind of mom?

If you see a mom with kids, elementary level kids, not behaving in public place and the mom told the kids to stop fooling around and behave so many times yet they still don’t listen she ended up spanking(not that hard) on their back or grabbing their arm and saying I said stop it but deep whispering voice right at their face how do you feel?

Older children in toddler spaces…

I love being a mother and I have such material instincts for any child, not just my own but lately whenever we’re out at public events or with other children in public places why do I find myself getting so annoyed with older children who aren’t being watched by their parents.

My daughter is 3 and I’m currently pregnant with my second baby so I’m not as active as I can be but my daughter loves play grounds/ bouncy castles and I understand these things are for every child of age not just toddlers but when there’s specially a play area intended for younger children and older children are still using it and playing slightly rough as they do why aren’t they being told?

I’ve snapped a few times at some children just because they are being too rough or dangerous. I don’t want to have to do this as it’s not my job, however, I’m not having my daughter get knocked over and injured.

I wish there was more separation between older children and younger children or parents would actually step in and ask their child to be more careful about their surroundings.

Regrets

With tears and pain in my heart, I’m writing this. I used to be a very happy person when I was single until I got married. My husband is a devil in human form, he’s a narcissist and manipulator. I will go straight to the point. I had a child before I met him. Me and the baby daddy dated briefly before i fell pregnant and he’s not involved in their life. I have a child with my husband and he’s been very disrespectful towards me, swears at me and name calling. He thinks that because he pays the bills, he supposed to control me and excluded from house chores. No matter how much I get the house to be clean, there’s one thing or the other that isn’t done properly. I cook, clean, take care of the baby full time even when he’s off work but not enough. I want one more child but that will be a terrible nightmare and what will the society say if I have three children will three fathers? I’m very sad and depressed because I don’t deserve this.

Do you think someone's garden is a reliable indicator of what the inside of their house is like?

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