Regrets

With tears and pain in my heart, I’m writing this. I used to be a very happy person when I was single until I got married. My husband is a devil in human form, he’s a narcissist and manipulator. I will go straight to the point. I had a child before I met him. Me and the baby daddy dated briefly before i fell pregnant and he’s not involved in their life. I have a child with my husband and he’s been very disrespectful towards me, swears at me and name calling. He thinks that because he pays the bills, he supposed to control me and excluded from house chores. No matter how much I get the house to be clean, there’s one thing or the other that isn’t done properly. I cook, clean, take care of the baby full time even when he’s off work but not enough. I want one more child but that will be a terrible nightmare and what will the society say if I have three children will three fathers? I’m very sad and depressed because I don’t deserve this.

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Respectfully, who cares what society thinks? There are so many different types of families out there… and it’s nobody’s business but your own.

It is important to find your happiness before you have another (but only in my personal opinion). I just dont want you to overwhelm yourself more physically and mentally without being happy. I’m a SAHM too, and completely understand how overwhelming and physically exhausting it is.

You deserve more than a narcissistic piece of shit husband. You deserve a relationship where you are loved and treated with respect.

I hope you have a way to get out.

I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this.
I got pregnant 4 months after I started dating my high school sweetheart, his parents decided that we needed to get married ASAP. He decided that once those papers were signed, I was no longer my own person. I officially belonged to him. We had an ok 2 years but after that, I was supposed to get a job, so he could stay home, which he did not. He would stay in the parking lot of my job for my whole shift, with our brand new baby girl, not feed her, not change her, just left her in the car seat. Started hitting me bc I didn't make enough money or work enough hours, and I was supposed to clean and make the food, for all 3 of us as well. His parents stepped in, his sister stepped in... He still picked the bathroom door lock if I had the audacity to lock it while showering bc I didn't want him on there... 3 different baby daddies? Nothing compared to letting your children watch that and think it's ok.

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So so embarrassed 😭

Hello everyone,
Feeling super ashamed right now 😭 my daughter's 3 weeks old and it's been really rough. My husband is amazing and has been so so supportive the entire pregnancy and even now. I had preeclampsia and HG, he's been through a lot also, we didn't expect our little girl to make it.

He's just changed jobs after being offered a better wage, so this month is really tough. All the bills are paid, food on the table, everything my daughter could ever need but left us with 88p until payday.

I forgot it's Father's Day today, he's worked so so hard to support us and we've been through so much recently I forgot it's Father's Day. I know it's noone else's problem, but this is such an amazing community I thought I'd ask here incase someone has the ability to help and I can repay back when I'm paid.

I'm fully humiliated and I have some mum friends on here that's why I'm anonymous😭 if anyone could spare a few pounds so I can get this amazing man just even a big chocolate bar and a card to say thank you for letting me not stress during my pregnancy so I could focus on our health.

Good men are few and far between and he's our rock. Just want him to feel appreciated even though I couldn't ❤️

Thank you in advance and I fully understand I should have remembered, there's just a lot going on recently.

Thanks in advance

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Hi all, I’m looking for a caravan holiday as we have 2 year old and I’m pregnant so we need something cheap and easy. Has anyone got any recommendations or advice? I’ve never done a caravan holiday before !

co parenting struggles.

Co-parenting is so hard sometimes because why is my baby at the beach at 11 PM? 😣 It’s not something I would’ve been comfortable with, but since it’s his dad’s weekend, I don’t get much say. The hardest part isn’t the lack of control, it’s not being there to watch over him and keep him safe. I pray that our Lord please keeps my baby extra protected tonight and every time I’m not around. 😢🙏🧎‍♀️‍➡️

Is my partner being unreasonable?

We were driving back from my grandparents today on the motorway. My partner was driving, me in front passenger seat, toddler (2yo) and baby (8 weeks) in the back.

We came across some traffic, it was stop/start. We sped up again to 40mph then it slowed down again. The car in front had come to a complete stop and my partner didn't brake. We were so close to hitting them. I shouted 'woah woah woah' and put my hand up. It was just a reaction I didn't think about what I was saying it just came out.

My partner did an emergency stop and then shouted at me for panicking him. We had an argument and he said if I keep 'acting like that' he will drop me off at the train station and leave me there. He said I was panicking him unnecessarily.

I said I didn't feel it was unnecessary, I felt like he didn't brake soon enough and tbh I didnt think he realised the car in front had stopped. I believe 100% if I hadn't said anything he would've gone straight in the back of the car.

Idk how I'm supposed to feel but I feel really upset and hurt for doing what I think was right to keep our babies safe.

Is my partner right? Should I have kept quiet?

Fathers days and loss advice

So we are currently renovating our house and a lot of things are being chucked! My husband has just thrown the last present my dad ever gave me in the tip! Unbeknownst to me.

It wasn’t anything sentimental, it was just a large pretty glass vase that holds little house plants in. We always forget to water them and it can actually turn into a bit of “clutter” but once it’s tidied back up with some fresh plants it can look rather nice.

But because we’re being ruthless and a lot of things are being chucked, he thought he’d get rid of it.

“One less thing sitting gathering dust and getting unloved” he said.

Anyway I only lost my day a year ago and I just burst out crying. He did say sorry. It’s his Father’s Day too but I’m struggling to let it drop. I think I’m just sensitive right now.

But I can’t believe he did that.

Any words of wisdom?

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I’ve known this man for about 7 years but now for the past 6 months we’ve moved to a relationship. He has my location, passwords and expects spicy stuff. I’m feel stupid for giving in but I have. I’ve requested to follow his insta but no response yet he can follow 3 of my mutuals. I don’t know I have this gut feeling like he’s going behind my back. I want to ask ask one of those mutuals if he’s talking them as while but I’m not sure if I’m just overreacting or just bring it up to him. I don’t really have anyone to talk to about this.