What do I do

My and my partner recently found out I’m pregnant after we’ve been trying for 2 years but I’m being put in a difficult position as my family don’t seem to think my partner is good enough for me. They pick faults with him and constantly point out he isn’t working atm. He has been working on and off during our relationship but he became my carer as I have a brain disorder but he never asks me for money or spends his money on himself but my family thinks he should give all his money to me. I have spoken to my partner about this and he is actively looking for jobs and just wants to prove them wrong but it really upsets me and Iv spoken to them about this but it always seems to come back around. What do I do?

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If you are happy in your relationship and you think he will be a good father to your baby, that’s what matters. There’s always going to be outside opinions. It sounds like he takes good care of you and you love him based off this post.

If your family truly loved you, they'd be happy for you instead of cutting him down.. they shouldn't even feel like they are ALLOWED to cut him down....

I'd tell them to stop talking about him and if they don't then leave..
Sweetie, the man sounds good.
Money isn't everything and from the sounds of it- he is not sponging off of you...

Ask your self if your truly happy with him and why.. write it down.

Do you have anything your not happy with about him and write it down.

Does the unhappiness somwthing you can live with or do you need to leave?

Don't live for your family hunnie..
What do they benefit from him not being around.....?
Are you more dependant on them?
They get any income?

I know these sound harsh but why would they not want y'all together if he makes you happy.
If he treats you good. He's a keeping.
If you and you alone feel like he is not trying hard enough then talk to him. But don't make yourself unhappy with him because your letting their judgement cloud your eyes for him

Ignore others opinions u know what u and him have better than anyone else as long as u and him are happy and in love that all that matters

One thing i can say is Fuck family ur happiness is what matters because they will never be able to love u or cater to you the way he dose. I have the same issue w my family and iv turned over a new leaf either they support you n love you or they leave u alone that simple

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Is this a c^nt move or am I “overreacting”

So I’m 20 weeks pregnant and got most stuff for baby bean and me and my partner have celebrated mothers day and Father’s Day and I got him a present that he’s wanted for years and it was only like £20 and he got me some stuff for Mother’s Day. All my family told him to get stuff for me and said to me I can’t get anything for him when he spent over £100 on me for Mother’s Day. And I told my sister that I got him something and she started screaming at me saying spend all my money on baby when I’ve skipped out on everything like gender reveals because she didn’t want to go and didn’t want to book a day off 2 MONTHS in advance (so did my mum) and I mean all I need to get baby now because I’m not finding out the gender until birth is the pram set and I shouted back that I have everything I need for MY baby because my side of the family have made the baby into a group project and is actively trying to cut me and my partner out of stuff for our baby even though we made it and I am growing them. Sorry for the rant but I need to know if I should just cut them out of mine and my baby’s life. They also told my family nurse we aren’t capable of living alone and that I will get postpartum depression.

Is my partner being unreasonable?

We were driving back from my grandparents today on the motorway. My partner was driving, me in front passenger seat, toddler (2yo) and baby (8 weeks) in the back.

We came across some traffic, it was stop/start. We sped up again to 40mph then it slowed down again. The car in front had come to a complete stop and my partner didn't brake. We were so close to hitting them. I shouted 'woah woah woah' and put my hand up. It was just a reaction I didn't think about what I was saying it just came out.

My partner did an emergency stop and then shouted at me for panicking him. We had an argument and he said if I keep 'acting like that' he will drop me off at the train station and leave me there. He said I was panicking him unnecessarily.

I said I didn't feel it was unnecessary, I felt like he didn't brake soon enough and tbh I didnt think he realised the car in front had stopped. I believe 100% if I hadn't said anything he would've gone straight in the back of the car.

Idk how I'm supposed to feel but I feel really upset and hurt for doing what I think was right to keep our babies safe.

Is my partner right? Should I have kept quiet?

What’s your thoughts about this kind of mom?

If you see a mom with kids, elementary level kids, not behaving in public place and the mom told the kids to stop fooling around and behave so many times yet they still don’t listen she ended up spanking(not that hard) on their back or grabbing their arm and saying I said stop it but deep whispering voice right at their face how do you feel?

Fathers days and loss advice

So we are currently renovating our house and a lot of things are being chucked! My husband has just thrown the last present my dad ever gave me in the tip! Unbeknownst to me.

It wasn’t anything sentimental, it was just a large pretty glass vase that holds little house plants in. We always forget to water them and it can actually turn into a bit of “clutter” but once it’s tidied back up with some fresh plants it can look rather nice.

But because we’re being ruthless and a lot of things are being chucked, he thought he’d get rid of it.

“One less thing sitting gathering dust and getting unloved” he said.

Anyway I only lost my day a year ago and I just burst out crying. He did say sorry. It’s his Father’s Day too but I’m struggling to let it drop. I think I’m just sensitive right now.

But I can’t believe he did that.

Any words of wisdom?

Older children in toddler spaces…

I love being a mother and I have such material instincts for any child, not just my own but lately whenever we’re out at public events or with other children in public places why do I find myself getting so annoyed with older children who aren’t being watched by their parents.

My daughter is 3 and I’m currently pregnant with my second baby so I’m not as active as I can be but my daughter loves play grounds/ bouncy castles and I understand these things are for every child of age not just toddlers but when there’s specially a play area intended for younger children and older children are still using it and playing slightly rough as they do why aren’t they being told?

I’ve snapped a few times at some children just because they are being too rough or dangerous. I don’t want to have to do this as it’s not my job, however, I’m not having my daughter get knocked over and injured.

I wish there was more separation between older children and younger children or parents would actually step in and ask their child to be more careful about their surroundings.

Regrets

With tears and pain in my heart, I’m writing this. I used to be a very happy person when I was single until I got married. My husband is a devil in human form, he’s a narcissist and manipulator. I will go straight to the point. I had a child before I met him. Me and the baby daddy dated briefly before i fell pregnant and he’s not involved in their life. I have a child with my husband and he’s been very disrespectful towards me, swears at me and name calling. He thinks that because he pays the bills, he supposed to control me and excluded from house chores. No matter how much I get the house to be clean, there’s one thing or the other that isn’t done properly. I cook, clean, take care of the baby full time even when he’s off work but not enough. I want one more child but that will be a terrible nightmare and what will the society say if I have three children will three fathers? I’m very sad and depressed because I don’t deserve this.