Sex postpartum

How often do you have sex 4 months postpartum and I honestly have zero sex drive. I used to enjoy sex but since having kids it’s just been so different. I’ve had sex 5 times since giving birth to my baby and even then I just don’t enjoy it like I used to. Has anyone experienced this?

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Breastfeeding, exhaustion, and physical injuries during birth made us wait until nearly 6mo pp to really try again. And it took several times to warm up and attempt that ended in cuddles and non penetrative time together because my body wasn't ready. It got easier at about the 8-10 month pp mark but we didn't struggle with it since I was massively fired up through my pregnancy, it was nice to have intimacy in other ways as we waited on me to heal.

In comparison my drive has been SO LOW this pregnancy and I was on pelvic rest for nearly 6 months because of a SCH, so it'll be a long stretch of no sex until my body is healed. My husband is great though so we navigate it with no issue, and I wouldn't feel guilty or bad about it.

The season passes and before you know it when life eases up or you're ready to take the plunge back into it, it's exciting and fun all over again 🥹🙏🏼 honest communication and vulnerability are so crucial to setting goals and expectations for what intimacy looks like as you heal!

It’s not as easy for me to enjoy it like it was before. It’s more work now.

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Room is between 26-27

Im a new mum Im am abouslty scared of having the risk of sids with a room temp this high in our bed room this is where lo stays in his net to me crib. Hes only 6 and half weeks old and he is just in his nappy xx

Bed time in this heatwave

So my little girl usually has her regular naps during the day she only had 20 minutes for her second one and now she’s absolutly exhausted at 5:30. Trying to keep her awake is proving difficult and she’s becoming agitated because she’s tired. I’m worried if I let her sleep too early she’s going to be up during the night? Any suggestions? Her wake window had now passed 4 hours

How do I end contact naps (not altogether) But at least one transfer to the moses throughout the day!? Need help!

As much as I love comforting my baby girl, she will only nap if she's being held (contact naps) all day, every day. But then night time, she will be transferred to her crib and will sleep through the night.. It really does baffle me!!

Has anyone managed to gently transition their little one to more independent sleep? I can’t get nothing done throughout each day, even the smallest of things! As much as I love bonding through contact naps, one transfer would be so good too!

Would love tips or encouragement from anyone who’s been through this! I feel like I’ve tried about everything, dark room, deep sleep, in the pram.. you’ll probably name it and I’ve tried it 😪…

I don’t want to be made to feel guilty for wanting some time without LO on my chest, I feel people that’ll say ‘enjoy it’ When experiencing it, it can be very tough, lonely and sometimes frustrating!
Of course I enjoy it and of course I will miss it when they no longer happen!!

27c bedroom - will baby be ok in this?

FTM here and my baby is 3 months old. Our bedroom is 27c in this awful heatwave, I currently have him in his nappy and 0.5 tog sleep bag (one of the transitional ones with arms) - will he be ok in this? I’ve unzipped the sleeping bag and he has an oscillating fan on which is reaching his next to me every so often

Sleep in this heat!!

How’re we getting our babies to sleep in this heat?🥵🙃 any tips?? Our room is 28 degrees and little one is just crying😩 dunno what else I can do!

Our neighbour has a weird fixation with our family. Has anyone dealt with similar?

The inability of our 4 & 2 year old to control their emotions enrages him and he makes it his business. Mind you this started when they were 3 & 1.

• He bangs on our shared wall when our two-year-old cries, most often during the night but sometimes during the day as well. This started when she was 1yo.

• He also does this when the children are playing and laughing in the evening.

• He mocks the sound of our children crying through our shared wall.

• While in the garden, he will loudly discuss with his partner what our children are doing, particularly when they are upset, making it clear that he is watching and/or listening and commenting on them.

He’s just an oddball and I don’t know what kind of oddball he is. The police and council do not care at all. But considering we live in a neighbourhood nestled between two primary schools, I have concerns about the others kids on our road who may come across him.