Husband lost interest in sex?
Anyone else dealing with this? Does it get better after pregnancy? It’s hard for me to not be in my head about it. We are expecting our first child. We used to have an amazing sex life, but as soon as I got pregnant, my partner lost interest. We’ve only had awkward sex or failed sex this whole time. Yesterday, we got married and I thought the excitement of that might lead to things happening, but he still is not interested. We tried and he wasn’t able to. Then he initiated again and still wasn’t able to. I tried not to show I was upset but it lead me to cry, and now I’m afraid that made it even worse. This is effecting my self esteem really badly. I feel unattractive and like he doesn’t see me the way he used to anymore.
Actually I have felt lonely in general. He’s
busy with work a lot. And he said he would make time for our elopement to feel special, but he ended up working all evening after we eloped and read each other vows. Then the next day, it was just like a regular Tuesday, not like we had just gotten married. I wanted to wait to get married until things felt more romantic, but he wanted the baby to have his last name and I wanted the baby to have both our last names if we weren’t married (but I agreed we could change our son’s name once we married).
Would anyone else be upset/sad about not even having sex after getting married? I’m honestly sad about it, and it makes me feel shame for feeling this way
The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.
Learn more about our guidelines.
Have you talked to him about his issues?
Ik most men feel weird the turkey baster touching the baby is what my husband always said 🤣. We really didn't have any during pregnancy but after 27+1w an I believe C-section was 8weeks he went all out.
That could be a possibility but I would tell him your emotions are thry the roof an u need an explanation even if he is working so much maybe put on sexy outfit or just go down him an see If that makes him feel better
I hope the sex changes for you after an gets better for you.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I'm 23 weeks and my husband and I have had sex 12 weeks in that time (includes the twice that got me to concieve). Mostly he's been interested and I've been struggling with nausea and hip pain and any pressure on my stomach. My husband said with his ex for his first kid he was super nervous about things until he learned sex is safe for baby. Have you or the doctor been clear that sex is safe for baby? And that your cervix is totally closed now so he can't touch, jizz on or interact with baby?
For me its kinda the opposite. My husband would honestly go at it like rabbits if I could/wanted to during pregnancy whereas for me im not that interested in it during pregnancy. After I had the baby my husband didnt have a sex drive and I did
Hoping once baby is out he will get back into his usual feels. But PLEASE, if that happens, do not let him rush you into having sex before you're fully healed/ready. You are waiting and so can he.
It’s always so hard talking to men about this issue it seems. Trust me, you’re not alone. For me it seems like I ALWAYS want it and well.. it doesn’t feel like it’s the same for my husband. But he also works 10-12 hour days and so he’s exhausted by the time he comes home. It’s hard because it’s rare that he will initiate but he will try for me. Still.. the constant oral that I have to do is starting to get irritating that I often reconsider if I even want to initiate because it’s become more of a “chore” to perform oral than actually enjoying it. I, too, have to have the conversation at some point but I don’t want to have it when we’re in the bedroom. I rather get an opportunity when we are not laying next to each other cuddling.
Download the Peanut App
