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Am I the only one who gets frustrated when relatives (male) are dismissive of postpartum struggles or try to act like they have the same struggles as women. I'm not saying they don't have any, sleep deprivation all of a sudden, emotional impact from bonding or struggling to bond with child, financial load etc. I'm not ignoring those. But when talking in messages with my dad (had 4 kids). He moaned about waking at 2am and up at 6am in this heat...I wrote back how my LO was up at 9pm/12am/3am/630, 3 of those for feeds (BF). His response "yes, it's hard work, i was one of those soldiers". Errr, tell me sir when you started breastfeeding. Maybe you were up helping with changes etc (sure my mum would say different, not an amicable separation). But you are not physically feeding multiple times in the night and day. My hubby is great he'll get up and grab baby so I can wap me tit out and dream feed without stirring him. But once his head hits that pillow he's out for the count. Where it takes me time to turn my brain off if I wake to much in-between feeds. I just can help be irked that my dad's trying to be all relatable, when I don't think my parents had healthy communication as is. He also worked 12hr shifts so how much was he there in the early days? I obviously don't know. But the pressure on mums day in day out shouldn't be popped in the same boat i don't think. Any waysšŸ˜‚..Just a rant!

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Omg my step dad is the same so can totally relate. It’s so frustrating and he honestly thinks my parter is gods gift. He’s a great dad to our daughter and a caring partner. But as with you our girl is EBF and I’d say I’m the main career as my partner is out to work. My step dad loves to chime in how it’s equally hard for us both… Not to mention the mental/invisible load.
So frustrating!! These men🄲 xx

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This is hitting the spot so hard!! I’ve had friend’s husbands say things like oh there’s no point in me staying overnight in the hospital, not much I can do so might as well go rest, or saying they’re nagging when they need a water refill or a snack when the baby is breastfeeding or napping on them. I am very concerned what my partner will be like but I hope he’ll be the opposite. I don’t know how they think it’s equally hard when it’s nowhere near???

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Friends told my husband not to even take his paternity leave straight after the birth as "newborns are easy"
Meanwhile he's off 15 weeks because I got a bad C-section infection, baby feeds hourly day & night & he's doing absolutely everything.... Yeah sure, easy!

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